Can you be happy without having a partner? This simple question may seem like a no-brainer to you. But sometimes the simplest things have complex nuances. The logical and healthiest thing to do is answer yes to this question. People, before establishing an affective relationship, we have to develop as autonomous, mature beings capable of having our own autonomy, and consequently, happiness.
But in reality, there are many who do not conceive of being "without a partner." They feel a considerable existential and emotional void that they only manage to fill by having someone by their side. Somehow, relationships are established based on a clear dependency, on an immature attachment where it is not always possible to build a healthy relationship. Let's talk today about this interesting question that we leave in the air, so that you can also give us your opinion.
Being happy as a person, to bring happiness to a possible later relationship
This would be the primary key. First of all, before being a couple, we must be a "person." Something so elementary actually contains interesting concepts that we must be clear about:
- We must develop a good self-concept. If I know how I am, I also know what needs I have and what kind of person is the one that should be part of my life, the one who can make me happy.
- The importance of loving yourself. Something essential. If we do not start from a good self-esteem and a correct and strong perception of ourselves, we will only project our own insecurities on the couple. Take into account, for example, that most toxic relationships are based on a deep insecurity on the part of a member of the couple. The same one that causes situations of jealousy. Of distrust. Thinking that they are going to be abandoned because they are not "good enough." If you have maturity and confidence, these types of dimensions will not appear.
- Have your own values, your hobbies and your own social circle. Having your own character and a well-defined personality will help us face many of the problems that may arise tomorrow in a relationship. Each of us must have our own scale of values. The same one with which to judge what is right and what is wrong. You know what you are willing to accept and what you are not. All of these are aspects that will give you strength, at the same time that you will enrich the relationship with that own character, with those hobbies, knowledge and details with which to share with the chosen person.
All these aspects clearly show us that it is essential to mature as a person in order to establish a healthier relationship. Happier. There where there are no manipulations, where not to be dependent. Where to build a relationship of equality in which, enrich us between the two.
It is not essential to have a partner to be happy
We know that there is nothing more intense and satisfying than be in love. Than to lead a life together in harmony and tranquility. But does that mean that human beings only find their happiness when they are in a relationship? Absolutely. It is not indispensable. Furthermore, those people who feel the essential need to have someone by their side in order to feel "complete" tend to develop a type of anxious and insecure attachment in their relationships, where real happiness is not always achieved.
So what kind of benefits can the fact of not having a partner bring us in certain seasons?
- Be yourself, time for you and to get to know each other a little more: sometimes, after ending a relationship, we need these simple dimensions to recover. For a certain time we have been part of a project built between two. Now, it would be the ideal time to think about yourself and choose new paths. Not having a partner at any given time is an opportunity to advance in other aspects as well. Personally or emotionally, it doesn't matter. It is enjoying your time and your space.
- Appreciate what you have learned and choose new paths. People live cycles, stages, intervals of time in which our life is one way, until for whatever reason, that cycle ends. You should never stagnate in the past, people must learn to assume, accept and then move forward. And nothing better than acquiring a certain knowledge of everything learned. In this way, we will start new relationships in the future being a little wiser, knowing where our limits are and knowing what we want.
In conclusion. People are basically lonely beings with our own needs that at any given time, we choose to live as a couple. That relationship may or may not be successful. But the essential thing is to always be ourselves. Love us. Feel proud of how we are and what we have. We should not be afraid of loneliness just as it is not worth closing the doors to new relationships.
Love is an adventure that is always worth it. But more important is without a doubt your own happiness, that which oneself has to know how to give oneself every day and every moment. Do you agree?