If you have realized that your relationship is not working, it is important that you take a step back and reevaluate the reasons. We are going to tell you some reasons why, perhaps, you are the problem in your relationship. We know that it is not always easy to point out the problem in a relationship. At first everything seemed great, but lately it hasn't been too good and you can't figure out why ... Naturally, you begin to observe your partner's behavior and begin to assume that they are responsible for the relationship towards its expiration.
But maybe your partner is not the only one responsible ... Take a step back and look at yourself. Sometimes, you don't see the problem that is staring you straight in the face. And that problem could be you. Read on for some signs that could make it clear that you are causing the problems.
You talk about things from the past
It is unfair to both you and your partner if you only remember things that happened in the past. It is understandable that you still feel pain when bad things happened in the past, but you will not solve anything in the present with the same arguments over and over again. When you have repeated fights over the same thing, you are showing a lot about your relationship. Talk less about what happened and more about the feelings you have for your partner.
Your partner may get tired of you always wanting to win all the arguments ... because in a relationship there should not be this type of competition, but the normal thing is to try to solve any problem that exists. Sometimes you have to accept when you are right and sometimes when you are wrong.
You want everything to be perfect
Perfection does not exist. The downside to expecting "perfection" in a relationship is that you are setting yourself up for disappointment. You are not perfect and neither is your partner, therefore your relationship will not be perfect either. And that's a really good thing. If everything about your relationship was exactly how it's supposed to be, then there would be no room for change or growth.
There will be many times when you will argue and disagree with things, but you should not take that as a sign that the relationship is failing. If anything, it shows that you are growing together. As soon as you drop this "perfect relationship" idea, you will begin to appreciate your relationship for what it is.
You haven't moved on from past relationships
It's hard to focus on your current relationship when you keep comparing it to past relationships. After a breakup, it's normal to block out the bad parts and only remember the good things, so naturally When you have an argument with your current partner, you can think about the previous relationships that you have lived.
No relationship is the same, so instead of comparing someone's relationship to your current relationship, try to focus on what is happening right now. You can look back on the past but you cannot live there.