If you have become pregnant and you want to announce it, you will probably feel very happy because you are going to give very important news. You may feel a little nervous, anxious, and also excited ... that's normal! You are expecting a precious baby! You may be wondering what to say and you will also be waiting for how others will respond to this news.
You can't really control how others will take your pregnancy news. You may also worry that they might be surprised or angry rather than happy for you. But the reactions of others do not have to condition the future relationship with you or with your future baby, sometimes when a person is surprised they do not know how to react and they do not always do it correctly (although they regret it later). You may find yourself reacting with hurtful comments, saying rude things about your status, or even completely ignoring this important news.
How to deal with negative responses because you are pregnant
If when you announce your pregnancy someone gives you a negative answer, you have some ways of reacting and that it does not affect you too much:
- Think about the person you are talking to. Sometimes you are dealing with people who love you and you really wanted them to be as happy as you or at least supportive. So this negative reaction can hurt you because they don't catch your joy. Even if it is out of concern, it is no excuse in their behavior, so try to be courteous and do not give it too much importance.
- Tell them what you expect from their response. If you expect a negative response because you are pregnant, try to frame the conversation with your expectations. 'I need to talk to you and I need you to just listen. When I'm done speaking you can respectfully tell me what you think, but I need you to remember that what I really need right now is your love and support. ' Then announce your pregnancy.
- Go somewhere else. Depending on the reaction of others, you can simply choose to walk away and find out what to do in response to their negative reaction later. This can actually help you if you tend to be impulsive or make reckless decisions. More than one pregnant woman has rejected the participation of grandparents forever in the lives of their children based on the reactions they had in the pregnancy, but it is not fair, especially if it was out of concern. Instead of having a rash reaction, it's better to say something like, 'I was hoping you'd be happy for us' and walk away until you feel calmer.
- Be nice Be kind in your response and respond with positive things. Although it may be complicated, it is an idea so that they feel that your pregnancy really feels like something very good in your life, no matter what.
- Ignore bad words. When all else fails, you can ignore them if the response to your announcement that you are pregnant is misplaced. This is not bad or hateful, it is protective for you. When a compromise can be reached that satisfies both parties, then you can reevaluate the relationship.