What happens when another person appears?

Just when you least expect it, and the instant you think whate your life is in order and you have everything you want, another person appears. It is something that is not programmed, and that no one wants when currently living a stable and happy relationship.

However, life, with its strange games of fate and coincidences, puts before us certain situations that they force us to rethink many things. Believe it or not, these events are very common, and since we are sure that it has happened to you on some occasion, today in Bezzia We explain to you what would be the most appropriate way to react.

When another person appears in our life ... and there are three of us

If we do not have a partner, the thing is simple: be brave and take risks. Now, the moment we already have that better half and a stability in our lives, the issue becomes complicated. We are no longer two, we are no longer you and me, since in our mind, Another person appears who without wanting or looking for it, is breaking that balance.

It is not about looking to blame, nor should we see ourselves as "bad people" because we feel attraction or interest in someone who is not our partner. It is natural, emotions cannot be controlled, as can physical attraction and that feeling that suddenly, someone awakens unexpected feelings and thoughts in us.

Love knows no rules, and no one puts a "bolt" on their heart when making a commitment to a person. No matter how hard we try, these types of situations are common. Now, as normal as they are, it does not mean that we should leave everything. It is necessary to act calmly, balanced and always attend to our self-esteem, our integrity.

What makes us attracted to another person?

We know that it is not suitable, and for many people, it is not logical either. Nevertheless it happens with total naturalness, and therefore, it must be recognized: having a partner does not prevent us from feeling attracted to another person as well.

Now ... why does it happen?

• You will be surprised to know that according to a study carried out by the universities of Columbia, Indiana, Kentucky and Lexington, more than 70% of people between the ages of 19 and 56 have experienced this feeling sometime in your life.
• Most of the people live this situation after years of maintaining a stable relationship. That is, from the age of 3, and according to this study, it may happen that we suddenly notice another person. Some psychologists speak of "the novelty," of experiencing new sensations, of that attraction for unexpected stimuli.
• Nor can we ignore that sometimes, and after maintaining a long relationship or having lived other relationships, we mature. And even more, we are more clear about what we really need or the type of person that complements us best.

We must not confuse friendship with love

Sometimes that other person appears to fill many of our gaps. It surprises us, offers us company and seems to suddenly touch many of those personal fibers that our partner does not usually perceive.

Now ... but is it really love? Human relationships are very complex, to the point that we can confuse that feeling of complacency, security and complicity with love. When in fact, it is not.

We think that this person is actually what we need, that he establishes a very intimate connection with our being, with our values ​​and beliefs ... But in reality, love is not based on coincidences, but also on loving differences, on passion, in that obsession that makes us wonder why, being so different at times, we need each other so much.

It is necessary to act calmly and not rush. When another person appears, many of our internal structures seem to break suddenly, but rushing is useless and they are not good advisers. Take note of what would be most appropriate to do.

What should we do when another person appears?

What is what i fell?

It seems like an easy question to answer, but it really isn't. Love and friendship sometimes play in very similar fields, and it is our hearts that must judge what it is that they really feel.

Sometimes, due to the routine in which we have fallen with our partner, that moment when someone new appears can dazzle us and even make mistakes. It brings us the attraction for the new, for the unknown, and that is always stimulating. 

However, it is common for many of these situations to vanish very soon with time, hence we must act with prudence, and think about what we really feel.

No rush, take your time to think without recklessness

Think that sometimes, we can cross the border and risk having a parallel relationship. Cheating on our partner and soon, realizing that it was not worth it, that it was a mistake.

• It is not worth taking risks before you are sure. It is clear that nothing in this life is certain, that we can all make mistakes, but at least, take your time to calmly reflect and make a decision.
• There are times when every risk is worth it, and that is something that you will have to decide yourself.
• The most important thing in all this is not to hurt other people. Do not cause at least unnecessary pain such as secretly cheating or lying. If you are going to take the step of taking risks with that other person, your partner deserves to know what you feel, and what you have decided.

Nobody can control that suddenly, another person appears in our life. What happens next will be my own decision, however, make the decision the most appropriate, without ever forgetting your self-esteem, your integrity and your happiness.