Your children need you to validate their feelings that they know that you care about each of their emotions, you must accompany them in every moment of their lives. Sometimes what your children feel may seem silly or of little importance, but in reality it is very important and they need your guidance and understanding to grow emotionally.
As parents and adults, you should normally talk about feelings and emotions with your children. It is important for children to know that emotions exist, that they are all important, and that theyThey are the ones that tell us how we are and guide us to find ourselves better if necessary. To achieve this, it is important to understand what emotions we can feel and name them. Only by labeling the name of emotions will children learn to name them when they feel them.
Ask your son what's wrong
In this sense, it is very important that you teach your children what happens to them and do it through the questions. If he has hurt himself, if he is angry or frustrated, you will have to ask him things like: 'What's wrong?', 'Did you hurt yourself?', 'Has someone hit you?', etc. It is a way for children to reflect on what has happened to them. Once they answer you, it is necessary that they understand the emotion they feel: 'I see that this makes you angry'.
Once the emotion has been labeled then a solution must be found for what has made you feel bad. Even if your child remains sad or angry, little by little and thanks to the fact that you have validated and respected their emotions, you will begin to feel better, you will understand what emotion has dominated you and above all, you will learn that you can find the solution if you really want to do it.
When you connect with your children's pain and accept their emotions (regardless of their behavior), then your children will feel much more emotionally connected to you. Above all, it is necessary to learn to separate emotions from behavior. This means that your children must learn that it is not justifiable that, for example, if they feel angry, they hit a brother or break the dolls. There are other ways to channel anger and it will be your duty to teach him to do so.
They will feel accompanied by you
In this way, your children will feel accompanied by you. They will know that you will be by their side whenever they need you and they will be able to cry on your lap because they will feel that you understand their emotions and really respect them at all times. In life there will always be adversities and it is necessary that children understand that this will generate emotions that will guide them in their emotional well-being.
If you create a trusting relationship with your children, they will feel heard, understood and respected and will lay the foundations for a fluid communication that will grow over time and will be useful as they approach adolescence and their affairs become more and more private for them. For them it is very important that you validate their feelings to feel good!