El true love It does not appear by magic, nor does it last over the years due to romanticism alone. Every stable and happy couple knows that authentic love requires effort, and a daily job where details are always important. It is vital that the daily work for the relationship is carried out by both members, at the moment when one of the two gives everything without receiving anything in return, the balance loses its balance and the relationship loses intensity. Stop being healthy.
We could say that on many occasions the ideal of "romantic love" It wrongly feeds the concept of true love. People are not half-halves of an orange looking for someone to complement us. We are entire individuals who hope to find another person just as complete, mature and responsible, with whom to share a life. And that project requires a daily effort where small details are taken into account.
But… Is there true love?
It is possible that when reading the title of this article more than one has drawn a smile of skepticism on her face. True love exists, of that there is doubt. Now, nobody is going to guarantee that this relationship is eternal, that happiness is constant at all times or that we are immune to disappointments with that chosen partner.
In love nothing is certain, but the important thing is to live it every day with the maximum intensity, with the maximum fullness, being aware that a constant effort by both of us. True love is not romantic love, it is a mature love that unites commitments, that knows how to reach agreements and that, in turn, takes into account these aspects that we will now describe to you.
1. True love is based on conscious love
To speak of conscious love is not to speak of spirituality, but of relationship psychology, of those mature relationships that do not demand, that do not submit and that respect spaces, also favoring the personal growth of the couple. It is therefore important that you keep these points in mind to learn to develop a conscious love:
- To offer sincere love to the couple, we must first know how to love ourselves.
- Mature and "conscious" people are not looking for the ideal partner, they try to make themselves the kind of person they are looking for in the first place.
- Emotionally strong people are not afraid of loneliness. Being without a partner for example is not traumatic, and when they do, they live the relationship fully and intensely.
- They never lose their illusion and innocence by loving with sincerity and openness. They know how to offer love, and in turn, they know that they themselves also deserve to be loved.
2. True love is that which makes us grow as people and as a couple
People must often deal with the two spheres of personal relationships, on the one hand there is the individual plane, where we must never neglect our Self esteem, our values, our personal growth. Then, there is that common sphere where we create a life as a couple and in turn, we move forward being "one".
For many couples it is difficult to separate the "I" from "we", and in a way it is something vital for our stability and emotional well-being:
- True love is one who trusts his partner and allows him to maintain his spaces, his hobbies, his friendships and his work sphere. Understand that this is all part of your personal growth.
- Una satisfied person of her work and of herself, she is someone who is happier and with more internal resources to, in turn, offer a more intense and complete happiness to her partner. «If I am happy I can make you happy», «If I am unhappy I will only bring you misery.
3. The importance of the little things
It is often said that we women are the ones who place the greatest value on the small details of the day. Sometimes the main problem lies in these aspects:
- We are never to take things for granted. Love is not a permanent dimension like that painting that we hang on the wall with a nail and that we observe with delight, thinking that it will always remain there, just as beautiful. Affective relationships are more fragile than we think, and are very dependent on the day to day, the small disappointments that can accumulate, disappointments, the always so dangerous routine, a word at the wrong time, or a word that does not appear when it should ...
- It is important that we never view our relationship as something as strong and resilient as a pillar. Work your relationship like the first day and worry about the smallest things. This is where true love resides. In that conspiratorial look at dinner, in saying goodbye with an I love you, in an unexpected surprise, in noticing those gestures, in the fold of those clothes, in that smile that contains a concern.
To conclude, remember that true love is not something that comes out of nowhere, think that the longest relationships have had to battle in very arduous storms, where communication is key, where love is the pillar, and where the little ones details, are those everyday anchors in which to fix our relationship. It is worth trying, it is worth never forgetting that the little things are what build big projects.