Christmas as a couple. At first glance, this holiday is synonymous with magic and unforgettable moments to share in the last weeks of the year, but the statistical data offer us a slightly more complex reality. It is the time when there are more problems and discussions. Holidays are those moments where we spend more time with our partners and where more breakups can occur.
Why does this happen? In a way we already intuit it. Family reunions in which we are forced to follow conventions that we do not like. To spend time with in-laws, cousins or political nephews with whom we do not harmonize, there where tensions arise and some demands on the part of both. We must look good to our families and the families of our partners. We must agree with whom we spend the good night, with whom the new year and decide how to say goodbye to the old night. Sometimes we endow these ever so magical parties with excessive complexity. When what really matters is knowing how to enjoy the moment. We explain how to prepare the best Christmas as a couple.
How to survive Christmas without arguing with your partner
1. Sharing likes
First of all, we must know if we both like these dates or not. We must be aware that not everyone likes to follow these traditions and that we do not all live it in the same way. If there are differences between the two, it is best to reach a middle ground. At home, if we are not truly passionate about Christmas, we will choose a fair and balanced decoration that you agree on equally. Ideally, you share experiences, moments that later remain to be remembered: choosing a tree or a nativity scene, making a list of those gifts for friends or family ... Christmas is basically sharing. But yes, share without imposing.
2. Pre-agree family meetings
If in your families there is the usual tradition of meetings on these dates, it is necessary that we properly distribute these events. For example, spending Christmas Eve with our family, New Year's Day with his family, and New Year's Eve will be exclusively for the two of us. Without pressure, everything agreed and with great tranquility. It is essential that you have your moments alone to enjoy these dates in privacy. You don't need to invest a lot of money, a quiet night at home can be really romantic if you organize it properly. As if, for example, you have the opportunity to spend the end of the year in a hotel, enjoying a dinner and the party prior to the chimes. It is worth having it planned, and then savoring these moments with tranquility.
3. How to overcome possible tensions in family gatherings
If you or your partner find it stressful to hold these classic meetings, establish in advance what time you are going to leave. "We will arrive at 20 pm and we will leave at 23 pm". Then calmly assume that the usual problems can arise. You already know your family members and you know more or less what comments they are going to make, what hobbies they have and how they can react. So plan ahead, take a breath and relax. Do not pretend anything that you are not and even less ask your partner to act differently from how he is. Try to enjoy everything with him greatest possible sense of humor, remembering also, that it is only a meeting and that in a short time, you will return to your normal life. The important thing is that you do not demand anything of yourselves and that you always be yourself.
4. Value the important things, without materialism
You don't have to spend a lot on those dinners, or on decorations, or on gifts. Remember that what enriches us the most as people and as couples is keep great memories. And those hardly cost money. Christmas should not be confused with those advertising campaigns that incite us to consumerism. It is not a good time for it and the best thing is to collect good memories of useless objects. There are those who have the opinion that Christmas is one more date, like Valentine's Day. But in reality they are times full of sentimentality that are worth keeping in the chest of our memory. They are like rites of passage that put us to the test. On trial to prove that we can survive family disagreements, those company dinners, not having too much money to go skiing in the mountains ... it doesn't matter. Christmas as a couple has to make us see that we can have a good time together enjoying that magic of the end of the year. And that without a doubt, we will arrive next year with the same happiness.
In conclusion. Don't push yourself into the idea that "everything should work out." Do not be obsessed with decorating the house, with going to buy gifts or with organizing those dinners with friends or family in the best restaurants. Not at all, the ideal is that you share moments and experiences in common, without committing ourselves to the idea that "it must be the best Christmas of our life." Let yourself be carried away by the spontaneity of the day to day agreeing together and deciding between the two. Live every moment with quality and with the maximum enthusiasm, always looking for moments of intimacy between the two of you. If 2014 has been a difficult year for you, end these weeks with the harmony and happiness you desire for the next one to come.