There is no doubt that any type of abuse, it leaves a series of traces on the person who suffers it that are very difficult to remove. In the case of the couple, the mental or psychological consequences are usually much deeper, especially because it comes from someone who is loved or has been loved.
Partner abuse tends to last over time, since it is difficult to take the step of putting an end to it and therefore, the consequences are much greater and more serious.
The mistreatment in the couple
Partner abuse can be done through physical violence or through psychological violence. Such abuse is usually expressed in a series of reprehensible behaviors or behaviors:
- Regularly pointing out that you are not doing anything right. This will undermine both self-esteem and confidence in the person.
- There is constant manipulation in order to make the abused person feel guilty.
- The abuser seldom acknowledges that he is abusing the partner and He attributes it to the imaginations of the abused person.
- In any mistreatment in the couple, there is an isolation of the person subjected to family or friends.
- There is a strong control of the abuser over the partner. He seeks a total annulment of the person himself to have it in his power.
Psychological consequences of abuse
Although each person is different, there are some points in common with regard to the psychological consequences caused by abuse within the couple.
Mental sequelae affect above all the self-esteem and safety of the abused person. The lack of self-esteem is so great that various feelings begin to appear, such as guilt and mental disorders such as depression or anxiety.
In the case of men, the problem is usually much greater since society is not prepared to conceive that a man is mistreated by his wife. In such cases the psychological sequelae are much more serious and profound. than in the case of battered women.
What to do about it
It is not easy to realize and accept that you are fully in a toxic relationship and in which the abuse is in the light of day. At first the abused person has mixed feelings and is not able to see the harsh reality. It is really difficult to take the step of cutting off the relationship, especially since it is about a person who has been loved and with whom a relationship has been established.
However, despite this, the only way to end such abuse is to nip the relationship in the bud. From there, it is essential to feel supported and put yourself in the hands of a professional. Being abused for too long causes the aftermath to be much larger and more difficult to heal. With the passage of time and with a lot of work, the person can go back to rebuilding his life and being able to enjoy it either individually or as a couple.