Exercising excessive control towards the couple is something that makes the relationship toxic, leading to a great deterioration of it. Despite this, there are many people who today control the couple to exhaustion. The control is not born with the purpose of harming the loved one but it is due to the personal insecurities that the controlling person suffers.
To avoid such control, it is important to find the reasons for such an attitude and treat them effectively and appropriately. In the following article we will talk about the causes or reasons why this need to control the partner occurs and what to do to remedy such a situation.
The need to control the partner
There are several causes or reasons that can lead a person to control their partner:
- The main cause of such control is due to a serious problem of insecurity and self-esteem. Controlling people are quite weak when it comes to their self-esteem and lack great self-confidence. This insecurity translates into a controlling power over the couple that causes great damage to the relationship.
- It may happen that the need to control the partner is due to a certain mistrust of the partner. It is quite normal that as a result of one or more episodes of infidelity, one of the parties in the relationship has a need to control their partner.
- The person who exercises such control over the partner may think that such controlling behavior is the best possible way to avoid certain problems and gain some security in the relationship. However, this kind of controlling thoughts will end up wearing down the good future of the couple and seriously endanger the bond created between both people.
How to avoid control over the couple
Control over the couple is exercised in different ways and modes: violating the personal and intimate space of the other person, manipulating on an emotional level or reproaching all their actions. No person should tolerate being continuously controlled by their partner and if this happens, it is important to seek solutions that put an end to such control. One of the solutions is to go to a good professional who knows how to put an end to such a problem.
One of the most effective therapies when it comes to treating power control within the couple is cognitive-behavioral. Through this therapy, the controlling person manages to treat his pathological jealousy and his lack of trust in his partner.
In short, insecurity, low self-esteem and lack of trust in the couple they are going to wear down in a dangerous way the relationship established between two people. If the controlling attitude is not dealt with, things can get worse and seriously jeopardize the relationship. Given this, the only thing left to do is solve the problem by putting yourself in the hands of a professional or put an end to the loving bond between the two people.