Conscious love. You may be one of those people who thinks that in this life, our highest goal is to find our other half, that other half that complements us. And it is a mistake, it is the classic example of "unconscious love", that which conceives itself as dependent on the partner to outline a "complete" person.
Conscious love, on the other hand, is one that gives itself to the other feeling mature as a person, feeling full and self-confident to offer happiness and balance to the one who loves, because in turn, he or she feels good about himself. There is no mutual dependence, they are "two whole oranges" who know how to build a life together with respect and affection. Let's talk today if you think about this concept that is not so well known: Conscious love.
Conscious love and emotional maturity
All of us have in our minds that dream ideal of which, surely, would be our own. Perfect Match. While we are aware that in real life all these dimensions are rarely met, there are many people who really aspire to find that "supposedly perfect" person. They set goals so high that they are rarely going to be satisfied with the relationships they start.
These types of profiles describe very well the "romantic love", nourished almost always by fantasy and by concepts as dangerous as they are inconceivable. All this in turn also builds unconscious love. Now, does this mean that there is no romanticism and magic in love? That everything is false?
Of course not, few feelings are as intense and full as love, however, we must take into account a series of factors that will help us to be more cautious and to understand a little better affective relationships. Take note:
"Conscious love" is not afraid of loneliness
The fear of being alone is one of those most dangerous dimensions when building a relationship. There are many people who link one courtship after another just for avoid loneliness, for having someone by her side to fill her emotional voids and her fears.
The people capable of starting healthier and happier relationships are those who "are with who they really want, who they really love." And they don't do it to fill a void or fear, at all. They are personalities who can be very well alone, who know how to enjoy it and who understand its value. However, when they meet someone who is really worth it, they do not hesitate to share their life with the person they choose. They do it with sincerity and being aware of your feelings.
"Conscious love" is not obsessed with looking for the perfect person
We know, we all have basic "aspirations" for which, without a doubt, would be the right person. And that is good, because in a way, it helps us to know what we are willing to allow and what we don't, what we deserve and what, without a doubt, would make us happy.
Now, you have to be objective and aware that there is no one perfect. That we all have more or less acceptable defects, hobbies and customs. The important thing, before we focus on getting "the ideal person", is to be ourselves first, the person we really want to be.
That is, worry first about feeling good about yourself, about fostering your self-esteem, about feeling happy, full and complete, someone who enjoys who he is and what he has. Someone, in essence, capable of bringing happiness and maturity to others.
Be the person you would like to have by your side
Are you one of those who needs to have someone by your side to be happy? Don't you feel good about yourself? Do you feel like a lost half that needs to compliment someone? Then always you will feel empty, And most likely, every partner you have will never be able to make you truly happy.
Sometimes we blame others for our misfortunes, that they do not understand us or that they do not understand what our needs are, when in reality, the problem may be in ourselves. However, something like this is difficult to recognize.
How to get it? How to be that person that we ourselves would like to have with us?
- Learn first to be independent, to take your own decisions and have a scale of values according to your personality.
- Listen to your voice, don't let others speak for you.
- Never let your happiness depend on others. It is not necessary to have a partner to be happy, the most appropriate thing is that first, you will appreciate the value of being alone, to follow your own steps with confidence and courage. Discover that you are also capable of making yourself happy by achieving your dreams, challenging yourself, learning every day, feeling safe, successful ...
- Once you have discovered everything you are, what you are worth and how good you are, you will be that person that you would also like to have with you. After that, do not hesitate, in the end, that "ideal" partner will reflect on you and discover what you already know: that you are someone who deserves to be happy and that in turn, knows how to make others happy.
Do not hesitate, love will come when it has to. And what's more, remember this too : "True love does not come suddenly towards oneself, but rather, part of our own interior".