The emotional nude goes beyond the skin. It is the language of affection and that openness that starts from the heart, of the deepest needs, of the most intimate revelations to show ourselves to the other as we really are. It is clear that in many of our relationships we do not always reach this intimate connection where we really get to know a person to feel them as part of our own being.
Nowadays, all these books are very fashionable that recommend us to "love without depending" and prioritize ourselves before our partner to safeguard our self-esteem. Although it is true that it is necessary to safeguard our own spaces, in a relationship we seek above all to fit in and harmonize needs with aspirations, our own dreams with common goals. To love is, whether we want it or not, to be part of a person and to need it. Therefore, it is essential to be able to strip ourselves emotionally to truly know each other, with our lights and our shadows to build a common project. In Bezzia We invite you to reflect on it.
The emotional nude as a key to intimacy in the couple
The physical nude does not require major problem or difficulty. It is something natural and almost instinctive. Our bodies meet because of desire, love, and that affection where we need physical contact. Now, when we talk about emotional nudity, things seem to get a little more complicated.
Let's see what its characteristics are.
- Emotional nudity is the ability to know ourselves to be able to give ourselves to the other person.
- The emotional nude knows how to translate affections, fears, desires, limitations, concerns and concerns into words. We do it with sincerity, looking into the eyes of the loved one revealing what we really feel at all times,
- The emotional nude requires stripping the soul, being able to eliminate artifice, false appearances, or all those defense mechanisms that help us to appear to be solvent, hiding insecurities and fears.
The more naked love is, the less cold it is, the more we undress our souls, the closer we will be to each other.
Causes that prevent emotional nudity in the couple
It is quite possible that when you read the statement you immediately thought that it is men who always have such a notorious difficulty when it comes to "talking about emotions", of opening up in this regard.
- Somehow, We all have this problem, but in our own way. It is often difficult for the male gender to translate this entire emotional world into words. Sometimes, even if he wants to, he has no strategies and even thinks that it is an act of weakness.
- For our part, eIt is common that when something worries us and bothers us «let's hope that it is the other one who guesses it«. And when this doesn't happen, we feel frustrated and upset.
- The emotional nude is not easy to carry out if there is not the adequate CONFIDENCE. If we fear that the other person may laugh, or we feel confident that they will not understand us, our relationship will not enjoy that adequate intimacy that helps us to move forward, to grow as a couple.
Keys to get naked emotionally
Security and trust
Emotional nudity can only be carried out if we are sure that we are with the right person, that we feel happy and that we are looking for a project in common with that couple. To find out, it is appropriate that we reflect for a moment on these dimensions.
- There is reciprocity in the relationship. Every act invested is rewarded, there is no selfishness, there is no blackmail.
- There is complicity, intimacy and good communication capable of respecting spaces, interests and needs.
- We are sure that this person allows us to grow by being ourselves. There are no walls, there are no vetoes and every time we look in the mirror we feel good because our self-esteem is good.
We do not feel judged
When the emotional nude starts we must be sure that we will not be judged, that by translating our needs into words there will be no ridicule, ironies or sanctions. We need respect, interest and above all, the closeness of the other person open to listening to us and emotionally bonding with us,
Emotional nude takes time
Don't worry about the rush. A relationship is built day by day and through the little details. Emotional nudity is not going to appear in a single day or a single night. That closeness must appear at all times, in that complicit intimacy in which to be able to formulate a thought, a need, a desire, an affirmation.
It is not just about "I love you", the emotional nude should speak of oneself, of one's partner and all that inner language where images, lights and shadows that we all have are embedded.
It is important to conclude with something important. When a person is emotionally naked before us we have a GREAT responsibility. That of showing the same closeness, of being responsible with everything heard, with everything revealed.
It is a gift that they offer us and that we must take care of and respect. They are aspects that are not shared with anyone else because they are personal and intimate structures that build a strong and happy relationship. It is worth keeping in mind.