Despite the passing of the years and the evolution of society, romantic love is still present in adolescent couples. There are many young people today who accept certain traditional aspects of love together with the fact of maintaining unhealthy and toxic relationships.
In the following article we will talk about the problem that romantic love in relationships between young people and adolescents.
Myths of romantic love
There are a number of myths when it comes to romantic love, which are still fully valid in couple relationships among adolescents:
- Myth that love and abuse are compatible. There are many young people who think that fights and conflicts within the couple are normal and that they are part of the day-to-day life of any relationship.
- Jealousy myth. People continue to think and believe that jealousy is part of the love one has for a partner.
- Myth of the brave prince and the delicate princess. Today there are many young people who think that in a relationship, the man is the one who should be in charge of everything and the woman feel graced by it and accept her passive role within the relationship.
- Myth of change for love. It is still thought that a violent and aggressive person can change their way of being by having a partner. This means that many women have to put up with certain behaviors from their totally toxic partners. It is thought that with the passage of time the man will end up changing and will bring positive things to the relationship.
- Myth that there is only one love in life. It is thought that there is only one true love and as such it cannot be missed. You have to do everything possible to be with that person.
- Myth of the better half. Many young people think that everyone has their better half and that they must search until they can be found.
What is the problem of romantic love between young couples
Having certain ideals when it comes to romantic love will help to the formation of totally toxic couple relationships. In the case of adolescents, this fact is especially dangerous since they are the first relationships and love experiences. Love is conceived as something that entails pain and suffering, giving rise to toxic relationships in which anything goes. Abuse occurs both physically and emotionally from the couple and it is seen as something normal within the relationship. Apart from the myths of romantic love, there are a series of risk factors regarding gender violence within relationships between adolescents:
- Having suffered certain abuses in childhood. This causes them to repeat the pattern and extrapolate the abuse when it comes to having a partner.
- Have friendships that keep certain violent attitudes with their partners.
- They have self-esteem and confidence issues. something that does not help when it comes to maintaining a healthy relationship.
- The young person has little empathy towards others and He barely has any social skills. something that affects in a negative way when establishing healthy relationships with other people.
In short, the first relationships are of vital importance when establishing relationships in the future. It is therefore not good that a significant number of young people, certain myths regarding romantic love are put into practice. In the vast majority of cases, these beliefs cause them to have inappropriate and unhealthy relationships that do not benefit either party at all. It is important to correct these behaviors as soon as possible in order for them to be able to maintain relationships that are healthy as well as balanced.