Stop dreaming about finding the perfect partner for you and you will find her. It's that surprising ... you just have to stop obsessing over finding that "person" that completes you as a couple, that you begin to live your own life, and only then, will it be when you can really find, when you least expect it ... that person who without being perfect, it will fill you up completely.
What if you decide to live life as if you will never find that person? Or live as if it doesn't matter what happens whether we meet that person or not? To be honest with you, probably some cool stuff ... and we are going to tell you about it below.
You could learn a lot from you
When you don't focus your whole life on finding someone else to try to fill it up, you learn a lot about yourself. Instead of focusing on what you can do to make other people happy, you should try to find things that make you happy. You never realize how much you don't know about yourself until you have all the time in the world to figure it out. Not focusing on finding love opens your mind to more than just that.
You become more realistic
We are so focused on finding the love we see in the movies we watch or the books we read. What we must realize is that this love story was invented by someone, based on their fantasies, they also become ours. That's what they are. They give us expectations about how relationships should be, when most of the time real relationships are nothing alike.
That's not to say that relationships can't be great and healthy, but you can't expect your relationships to be exactly as they are in that movie that you have seen so many times that you can recite it word for word.
When you live as if you are not going to find anyone, you learn that your life does not have to revolve around falling in love. You learn that there is more to life than just the chase. It gives you time to calm down a bit and see that you don't need to check yourself to conform to other people's standards. You have the opportunity to really be yourself.
You will stop worrying about useless things
We are obsessed with trying to do things to make people love us. We tend not to act like ourselves in hopes that people will want to be with us based on what we can pretend to be instead of the people we really are.
We continually mention being ourselves because learning to be ourselves unapologetically is the key to true happiness. If you have to pretend to be someone else to like someone, then that person is not the person you should be around with. You will learn to see how ridiculous it is to care about everything they say and do to people. Lift a weight off your shoulders physically and mentally because you are not constantly stressed.
And without realizing it, when you find yourself in the middle of all that carefree happiness, that imperfect person will appear that you will feel perfect.