There are many problems that can make a relationship end. According to statistical data, the main causes are usually deception, betrayal and jealousy. But the truth is that under these dimensions there is always the lack of communication, the monotony and the lack of love that can occur when we do not properly manage our differences. Maintaining our commitment always requires a daily effort, we know that, but sometimes the costs of doing so can be too high.
There are many people who, for example, dedicate great personal and emotional sacrifice to keep their partner by their side. These are situations in which we begin to give in more than necessary, in which we keep words and needs to ourselves so as not to lose the other ... all this will only wear us out. our self esteem and our balance. All for fear of losing the loved one. To see us alone. But remember, it is not the right thing to do. It is always good to know how to recognize those indicators with which to warn that a relationship does not go further. That every effort will bring us nothing but suffering and frustration. We explain it to you.
How do I know that my relationship is in danger?
Obviously you don't need a sixth sense to simply know that we are no longer happy. Or that we do not receive everything that we need and that is essential in a relationship: love, attention, respect ... But there are some basic axes on which we have to pay attention for two reasons. The first, to realize that something is failing and what we should strive to improve. The second, to assess whether, given these circumstances, it is worthwhile or not to continue maintaining our relationship.
All this you will have to value yourself. But first of all you must be realistic and not prolong a situation that can cause you great emotional costs, great suffering. Take note:
1. Lack of interest in future projects
A stable and happy couple, they establish their commitment to a common project. In future plans, both in the medium and long term. We are not talking only about the idea of a family project: house, children ... It is not only about this. Future projects are also in those daily plans: organizing a trip, an outing, any activity for the weekend ... That is where you sign up the illusion to undertake things together. For being a couple and projecting common aspects.
If there comes a time when you stop planning, when you sense that the illusion no longer exists, ask yourself why it happens. Sometimes it is not due to a lack of interest, but to a lack of time and an inability to set priorities. It is something that must be discussed in common and where there must be changes. But if there is no will and you only find excuses ... make one objective assessment on whether or not it is worth maintaining that relationship.
2 The communication
How is your way of communicating lately? In a healthy relationship, communication is an essential pillar. We are interested in knowing about the other, serving them and listening to them. We look into the eyes, with empathy and openness ... If you notice that your partner no longer listens to your words, or simply, communication is based more on discussion than on constructive dialogue, then you have another indicator to attend to.
Sometimes when we have a problem with the person we love, communication becomes difficult. Emotions drown us: fear of losing it, anger, confusion ... We must try to calm down and not attack. Listening and put our thoughts and needs out loud in an assertive way.
But if you have noticed that along with this lack of communication, there is also misunderstanding and a clear lack of will to face the situation, it is time to reach a decision.
3. Lack of complicity
Complicity is a great dimension where many situations are inscribed. Complicity is privacy between two people, there where the signs of affection and love are given. It is also a commitment to the other, always doing the best for him and putting him before many more things.
Complicity is also demonstrated in that knowledge we have of the other: we know what makes him laugh, what he likes, what makes him sad. We know how to read many of your thoughts and wishes on your face. Is a pact between two people and that the couple builds day by day. If these aspects stop occurring, surely we will begin to feel sadness and despair. Because we no longer see those daily displays of affection and empathy. And this is the first thing we begin to notice when a relationship is not going well.
If we notice that the other person has lost interest in certain things, we must find out why. Maybe there is a problem to talk about. Some dimension to solve. If, after having done it, having invested efforts, time and emotions, we receive nothing but the distance and detachment, we will have to react as well.
We know it is not easy. Recognizing that our relationship is not on the right track is something that we immediately perceive in our own well-being. Doubts, fears, worries appear ... Every effort to reach a solution and keep the relationship afloat will be worth it. as long as both parties strive for it. But if dedication and sacrifice comes only from one side and not the other, we must be objective. Sometimes the best thing will be simply to "let go." Letting go of a person who causes us more suffering than happiness. Your personal and emotional well-being comes first.