"50 shades of gray" and the subsequent novels that follow, have risen not only as the literary success of the moment, but also as a personal revolution for many women. It is that book that we keep on the bedside table and whose pages ignite many of our fantasies. Many of our erotic desires that its author, EL James, with his more than 40 million copies sold around the world, has managed to awaken through his characters bringing us scenes until then considered taboo.
This erotic trilogy that some may consider as a product of exclusive commercial vein, has behind it a whole sexual language to be discovered by the general public that is worth taking into account. Not only is it a good and trustworthy introduction to the world of sadomasochism, it is also a way of discovering new experiences, new ways of enjoying sexuality. A language that requires a consensual pact between two people, which is worth knowing for our own relationships. So, and from our space, we want to give you some simple guidelines to make the fantasies suggested in "50 Shades of Gray" come true, a way to break monotony and enjoy the person you love.
Keys to enjoying your sexuality according to "50 Shades of Gray"
It is not just a question of "getting our inner goddess and to believe it ». It is essentially about enjoying in a consensual way with our playmate. With our partner. It is worth separating literary fiction from reality a bit and acting confidently, agreeing with your partner which fantasies you would like to make come true. It is an exchange, an agreement between the two of you where we must put complexes or problems aside. Explore, play, feel comfortable with your body and with yourself, seeing your partner as that being you love and who is enormously erotic for you.
1. Say no to prejudice or shame
Your sexual relationships so far may have been somewhat limited and lacking in fantasy. What if we put aside the shame or taboos? The first step will undoubtedly be to talk to your partner and suggest what you want. Words They are necessary because no one is a "magician" to guess what we want or what we want. Speak, explain, suggest, seduce ... and never say no to something that you do not know or that you think may give you a lot of embarrassment or embarrassment. Sometimes it is simply a matter of knowing how to find our limits to know ourselves a little more.
Day by day, and without taboos, we can discover new things. Positions, toys, new situations ... do not deny yourself. Any small change can be a real shock.
2. New scenarios
Sex is not just limited to bed and at night. Not even less with the light off. It pays to be risky and resourceful. Any situation is new and exciting. An unexpected date on the beach, in a restaurant ... it doesn't matter. Sex must go beyond the bed and arise at the least expected moment. Foreplay, seduction throughout the day is always very important. New technologies are very useful as long as we have privacy. So do not hesitate to send him messages, phrases that turn on the previous wish.
3. Play domination and submission
You may not yet know what role you would like to take on. And that's where the real opens self-knowledge game, exploration and pleasure. Different toys and even dresses are worth trying out. Do not neglect the masks, the handcuffs and even the whips if it is of your curiosity; it is simply a matter of testing. To play and seek new pleasures in our own body. Put aside the embarrassment and just experiment. Break barriers and switch roles, today you can be dominant and tomorrow passive like Anastasia Steele.
4. Bondage toys and accessories
They are a whole world to discover that will quickly capture your interest. It is about a style of fashion and accessories associated with the world of sadomasochism that we see in "50 Shades of Gray." Vinyl dresses, suggestive underwear, leathers, latex, attractive corsets and various accessories that you must choose between the two, or to surprise each other. You also have endless erotic toys to try, and that will undoubtedly offer new and stimulating situations to your encounters.
To conclude, it is worth remembering first of all that the greatest stimulant in sexuality is precisely our brain and our imagination. It must be said that a large part of the EL James trilogy lies in its eroticism, and not so much in its moments of "rough sex." Many women are attracted to this profile of Christian grey, a man who is constantly playing and preparing the ground. Seducing from dawn to dusk, earning those moments of sexuality long before the encounter occurs. Thus, we must not forget the importance of fantasies and desire. In essence, the breaking of taboos and shame.
Experiment with your partner face to face, remembering that sexuality can start early in the day with a touch, a look, or a word. Foreplay is of key importance in any relationship. AND innovate, it is always a good idea to give more strength to your relationship. More intensity and pleasures in your real life, where why not, books like "50 Shades of Gray" are always a good incentive to imitate.
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