Pride is usually seen as something negative in the personality, But really if pride is combined with humility it doesn't have to be a bad thing at all. The pride that makes people feel that they are superior to others and want others to praise them to feel good, this pride, is toxic. Instead, pride combined with humility that makes people feel good about their achievements and learn from their mistakes, this pride, is the healthy one.
This last pride is the one that must be taught to children. Children must learn that pride can be good for them, as long as it is treated in the right way. Of course, you should also be a good example and teach your children when pride is healthy. and when it is toxic and must be redirected.
In order to see the positive side of pride in the education of children, it is important that the positive side of it is enjoyed, that is, that you learn to manage the feelings that this emotion produces so as not to fall into narcissism, self-centeredness or vanity.
Enjoy the bright side of pride
In order to enjoy the positive side of pride and for your children to learn from example, you must take into account the following factors:
1. Have high expectations
High expectations is not bad. Having goals that demonstrate your worth and that of your children within their capabilities is adequate to achieve success in life. People who take pride in their work are more likely to have a higher quality of life. Teach your children that having high expectations and achieving good results is not bad. What matters is learning from mistakes when they are made in order to improve next time.
2. Put negativity aside
When things don't go your way, frustration can appear, but looking for solutions to those obstacles is what can really raise other people's admiration for yourself. Pride will help you continue to achieve the things you want in life. If you get frustrated you need the courage to move forward and learn from what has not turned out as you expected.
3. Pride gives you positive signals
Pride, when well understood, can give a positive signal that what you are doing really matters to you. When you feel proud that something has gone well for you, it is because you care about that. This learning is very important for children.
4. External praise is not that important
People with toxic pride may seek praise from others to feel good, but when pride is tied to humility this is not so important. A person with good pride does not care about the praise of others, what he really cares about is feel good about what you are doing and if it does not go well, you will look for solutions to improve and feel satisfied later.
5. Proper pride stimulates leaders
When something really matters, you will fight to get it. If you have a project, an organization or something that motivates you, you will feel like a leader to carry out that goal you have in mind. This is good for children to learn because they will know that well-managed pride will lead to sure success.
6. Proud people take care of their family
When you are proud of your family, you will always take care of them. You try to give them the best things in life and you don't allow them to suffer in bad conditions. This is an apprenticeship that your children will learn from you every day.