Having an adventure can be exciting, you can feel like you are on a roller coaster. Even if an affair is fleeting, it can teach you a lot about sex, relationships, or love. But there will come a time when you will have to reflect on whether what is happening to you with that person is something real or just an adventure. If you don't, you may end up with damaged emotions.
What everyone wants is a romance that includes physical attraction, getting along with friends, a mutual desire to be in a monogamous relationship, and shared interests. With all this in mind, how do you determine if the person you are with is just an affair or a long term love? We help you below.
Have you met his friends?
You may have been seeing that person for a while but you still don't know their family or any of their friends. When you meet someone with whom you feel deeply connected, you want everyone to know. It's like a rite of passage, that is, getting the go-ahead (or not) of the people whose opinions we value.
If there is a delay in family introductions, your companion may want to draw their own conclusions about you without being influenced positively or negatively by others. Not everyone wants outside opinions until they have made their own decision. Though, If it hasn't happened naturally in two months, you may prefer an exit plan.
If he is not in front of you, you do not think about him / her
Every time you are together, you are on top of each other; You hold hands, you hug each other, you are affectionate ... But when you are apart, communication decreases. To be fair, busy people usually know how to compartmentalize their lives. They are focused and present with the task at hand, which means that when you are not there, they are probably paying attention to something else.
It's only worth worrying if you know that there are no busy schedules or careers that demand your attention. If the gaps between your visits are getting longer and no effort is made after working hours, sight may be lost, instead of absence growing affection.
Talk about expectations
It's important to talk about expectations up front. Not everyone is looking for a life partner. Some people are happy with recreational dating and seek relationships based only on fun and pleasure.
There is no right or wrong, it is just a matter of preference. It becomes a problem when you assume that the expectations of others are the same as yours. If your love interest is also looking for a long-term partner, introduce future-based conversations and pay attention to the responses. If someone is serious about you, you will feel relaxed and pleased that you brought it up. If they only make excuses for you, it is because they are not in your love line.
Think about whether you really want an affair or a real relationship.