It is said who has a friend, has a treasure. But this is not always the case, because some friendships can turn into the opposite and begin to create bad feelings and problems that should not appear if it were a good friendship. We refer to a term that they have already named as 'toxic friendships'.
Toxic friendships can manifest in various ways and even we have been able to become toxic in this sense for some people. Recognizing them and recognizing the situations in which we are harming other people with our behaviors is something very necessary to be able to enjoy good friendships, something really necessary for our happiness.
Your problems are always the most important
In these friendships there is really no reciprocity. These people are selfish and therefore they always talk about their problems for hours, overwhelming everyone and dramatizing everything, but when it comes to listening and helping others they do not listen and change the subject quickly. They will use typical phrases to cut the topic such as 'get over it' or 'it will be over' or 'cheer up' and they will move on to the next topic, which usually has to do with them. In these friendships we do not feel reciprocity, only they are the protagonists and they use us to tell their problems and frustrations.
They are not there when necessary
If we need them for whatever it is, either to take us somewhere because we don't have a car or to support us because we have left our partner, they will always have something better to do. They are weak friendships, which are only based on good times and in order to get something out of us. That is why when they are necessary they can flee or simply not answer, since that is not something that benefits them in any way.
They are not happy about your achievements
La envy and selfishness it has no place in good friendships. If a friend does well, then we all rejoice. Toxic friends don't rejoice because they are not theirs and they always want to be the ones with the best. Sometimes there are friends who approach other people just to raise their self-esteem, so they don't like seeing these people improve, because it makes them feel less successful and more insecure. Therefore their friendship motivations are purely selfish and insincere.
You can't trust them
Over time you have stopped telling him things these people because they cannot be trusted. Either they have told your secrets to third parties or they have simply criticized you in front of other people for things that you have told them that were important to you. If you can't trust your friends then they are not that friendly.
They only talk to you when they need something
This is part of those friendships that move through the pure interest and selfishness. They only talk to you when they need something from you, be it a favor or psychological support. If a person only shows up when they are unwell and want to tell you about their problems or when they need you because they have no one else to party with, you better run away, because it will never be a true friendship and in the long run you will be wasting time and effort.
They don't accept you as you are and they don't support you
These friendships can reach want to change things about you or to criticize you harshly for your behaviors. We know that good friends say things to your face, but these are people who don't really connect with you and there are things about you that they don't like and that's why they try to change you.
They make you feel like a less strong version of yourself
These friendships they are undermining your morale, they are critical and on many occasions they want to shine at your expense. When you are with these people you cannot be yourself and you do not feel that you are the best version of yourself, confident, strong and happy. If you always feel worse around these people, it's time you changed your course and let them go.