If you are the parent of a teenager, it is more than likely that you have tasted the bitter taste of teenage rebellion. It is something common and very normal, but it is necessary to know how to take it to be that conflicts that may arise become real family problems.
You may not completely avoid teen rebellion, but you can prevent it from going to extremes, which is why you should consider the following tips. They are the best way to prevent your adolescent's natural rebellion from affecting your bond too much.
Set firm but reasonable rules
For example, allow your teenager's friends to visit their place to play video games and eat pizza. But set a rule that the teenager cleans the room after friends leave. Set rules that are beneficial to all, rules that respect the adolescent's newfound independence, and that allow you to prevent things from getting out of control.
Have a conversation instead of an argument
Implement a rule when starting a conversation and not when dictating it. Set rules that don't force the teen so much that they feel pressured to test tough limits. In this way, it will be easier for everyone to have a healthy conversation.
Have reasonable consequences
If the adolescent breaks the rule, he must have a penalty. For example, if the teenager does not clean his room after a video game party with his friends, then they cannot attend the next party. Talk to your teenager about the best way to set consequences so that both of you can be calm.
Praise good behavior
Appreciate the moments when the adolescent does something right. For example, say some nice words when your teen cleans the room on their own without being told. Congratulate them with a smile and words that indicate that you really appreciate their efforts. Commendation is the best reward, but sometimes material rewards can also be used. You can allow them to have ice cream or buy a new dress.
Give your child space and privacy
It's okay for teens to gossip on the phone with their friends and spend more time with them after school. If your child follows all the other rules, then it's okay for him to have time for himself. You don't always point these things out because it can upset them and make them unruly.
Share knowledge and resources
Tell teens how being rebellious because peer pressure can have adverse results. Familiarize them with the dangers of underage alcohol and tobacco use. Calmly explain to them how such things are not worth fighting with parents. Give your teen resources to decline offers to smoke or drink. It will help resist peer pressure.
The most important thing is to take the time to listen to your teen and listen to their perspective. They are more likely to listen to you if they feel that you value listening to them. A rebellious teenager is a cause of anxiety for his parents. You feel that there is no end to the arguments and disputes you have with them and the situation can seem hopeless. But keep calm while you deal with that behavior and lay the foundation for a healthy relationship with your teen.