You may have realized that you are jealous of your partner's ex. Your partner loves you, you know it… but you can't help but feel your heart skip when you notice that his ex writes to him or likes him on social media. Although you cannot avoid it, it is important that you overcome it, especially if you want your relationship to go well from now on ...
Are you obsessed with your social media accounts?
If you are electronically harassing all of her social media accounts trying to find out everything about her, stop immediately. Have you created a fake Facebook profile so you can take the stalking to even deeper levels? Eliminating it as soon as possible will save your relationship. You are feeding your insecurity and making things worse.
Do you look through your partner's social media accounts or phone trying to find any evidence that can verify your suspicions? At this point, you are no longer jealous and are telling your boyfriend that you don't trust him. This is a bad place to be. Develop a resolution to stop this behavior.
This may sound a bit crazy, but you might consider getting to know them and befriending them if they give you the opportunity naturally. For example, you move in mutual social circles, etc. If this is not possible, continue with the rest of the article.
What exactly are you jealous of?
Do you think she's prettier than you? Skinner than you? More educated? Have you done cooler things? Have you traveled all over the world? Regardless of the genius you think she possesses, she is not you. You are unique and there is no one like you. If there is something about you that you are not satisfied with, make a plan to work on it and improve it yourself. Don't measure yourself or your achievements in front of someone else.
If you are able to think about your ex (s) without having romantic feelings towards them, it may be the same way for your partner, don't you think?
Could you be projecting something from an experience into a previous relationship?
Think about it. If there's something unresolved there, find a way to deal with it before it affects your current relationship. What if the script was the other way around and it was your partner who was jealous of your ex? Would you feel irritation? Or was your ex boyfriend's current girlfriend the one stalking you online and doing all the things you're currently doing? It's not very nice, is it?
You have control over what you do and how you react to something. It is your life energy. Use it wisely. There is no need to add unnecessary drama to your life. Focus on the positive things that matter and try to not thinking of someone who is probably not even thinking about you.
Trust your partner
He deserves it if he hasn't done anything to give you grounds for suspicion. If you continue to obsess over your ex after trying all of the above, then it might be time to contact a professional. There could be something else that makes you unravel that only counseling can help you accept.
There is nothing wrong with asking or knowing about your partner's past. However, your priority should be building a strong relationship that can stand the test of time. Forget what came before Focus on the good things about you and your partner, look to the future, and enjoy your relationship.