It is normal that throughout our relationship we have doubts. Each person expresses their feelings in a way and it is possible that at some point, we come to think that our partner does not love us as much as we think. Or that there is a problem that we have not yet identified. Sometimes the emotional communication between the two is not the right one, and this gives rise to doubts and fears. To the fear that perhaps, we do not care that person as much as we wish.
What to do then when this question appears? The most common and logical thing when we want to know how someone feels about us, is, simply, to ask. It is our partner and the Trust it is essential when solving any situation. But according to some studies carried out in this regard, there are many people who reserve this very direct question, to trust their observation and their own intuition first. And it is that, whether we want it or not, these types of doubts can become the most destructive in a relationship with a partner. Whether they are founded or not, there is a clear problem of mistrust on the part of either of them. For us when we think that perhaps our partner does not love us, or part of him, by not adequately demonstrating his feelings or not taking proper care of the relationship. Let's see it in detail.
Keys to know that we are important to our partner
Commitment, good communication, empathy, attraction and respect are essential to build a healthy relationship with future prospects. But we have to bear in mind that relationships between two people are built every day and every moment, through understanding and also negotiation. There must be a clear will on the part of both of you to carry out what you have built between the two of you. Is essential. But it is also understandable that doubts arise from time to time.
There are times when we invest a great deal of personal and emotional energy in maintaining a relationship, when in reality, those suspicions are true and our future with this person is no longer possible. The heartbreak or simply, the fact that our partner feels that it is no longer worth moving forward with the relationship, are quite clear realities to which we must know how to react. Maintaining our own self-esteem is essential to protect ourselves, and not get hurt.
It is common for many people, far from ending a relationship in which they no longer believe as soon as possible, prefer to extend it for fear of doing harm to your couple. That is when we must be attentive to those small signs. If before the needy and clear question of whether they still love us, you find an answer that does not convince you, take into account the following dimensions:
1. Attention
We have to perceive that our partner shows sincere interest in us. For our lives, for our plans, for our wishes ... Interest is hard to fake and we can always notice the false questions. Attention is shown every day and every moment in small details, and above all, in the face of future prospects. At the idea of continuing to maintain the commitment and maturing your relationship.
2. The need to be together
Nothing is so necessary that the be together. If you still do not share a life together, it is usual that he wants to see you and make appointments. Take a coffee, for example, as soon as you have any free time. Arrange that outing to dinner, to the movies, that weekend getaway ... Nor should we be obsessed with the idea that, for example, he should always meet us earlier than with his friends. There will be days when it will be like this and days when it won't, but we must first of all pay attention to his will. In his desire and interest, there where there are no strange excuses for not meeting.
If we already live with our partner, it is common for example to make plans for the weekend. We will also see that there are no unjustified exits from home. That when he is at home he is happy, sharing his time satisfactorily with us. They are easy to observe and intuit signs.
3. Communication
We will look at how communication with our partner is. We'll see if you pay attention to our words, to needs that we propose, we will try to perceive if there is empathy or if we already see a clear distance from the beginning of the relationship. Calls, messages, communication via mobile or WhatsApp are also indications to take into account to see whether or not you want to keep in touch.
4. The promises
In a relationship, it is common for there to be promises. A trip, a call, a personal pact ... if he begins to breach what he asks us and excuses himself with reasons that we do not quite understand, it will also be an indication to consider. Promises reflect interest and need for compromise of one person for another. And they are always essential to building a strong and stable relationship.
To conclude, we must never ignore these signs and these dimensions. There are many times when we emotionally commit ourselves to a person at a very intense level, without seeing, without perceiving, that he is not a person. solid relationship. That there is no reliable compromise. There are many types of relationships and we may be with a person who does not want to commit. Getting things straight from the start is essential for both of you.
Observe, intuit and ask. If you are not sure or you notice that this person does not provide what you need and offers you more doubts and suffering than satisfaction, put an end to it. You Self esteem can be very touched by this type of relationship. It is important.
