La lying is part of social life, since we have all lied to a greater or lesser extent at times. While it is true that there are lies that can hurt and people who lie almost compulsively, in almost all cases we limit ourselves to small lies that are used to obtain small benefits. Lying is part of our day to day even if we only realize it on some occasions.
Es very difficult to know if someone is lying, because there are some indicators but not all people demonstrate them. However, we can improve our ability to detect lies by keeping a few things in mind. Many studies have been done about this phenomenon because it really is something that interests the human being.
Nervous attitude
Here there may be discrepancies, since not everyone is nervous when it comes to lying. There are people who They get used to lying and they do it really well. On the other hand, there are those who get nervous simply with the situation because they are shy or are not used to talking to people they do not know. We must always take the situation into account to know if someone is really lying to us, since there can be many variants. But in general, if there is nervousness in the other person, it is because of something. We tend to lie about small things, but if the lie is bigger, we will probably realize that the person is nervous.
Elusive look
This can be another symptom of nervousness and being a shy person. Not everyone is capable of looking others in the face. But if we know that this person is not shy, it may be that the fact that he avoids our gaze is telling us that he is really lying and that he does not want us to know. This is a really interesting way to make sure what it tells us is true. Someone who lies is not normally able to keep his gaze while telling the lie.
Answers in which there are inconsistencies
If someone lies and does it in a way that is a big lie, it will be easy to catch. No longer because of his gestures, but because around a lie there must be a whole story and at some point we will find inconsistencies in what he tells us. That is why when it comes to finding out if something is true it is always better to ask some questions to find out about the context or the origin of everything. If we see that the story is not consistent, it is most likely that they are lying to us at some point.
If you know that person
If we know that person we must remember how he expresses things in their natural state. If our instincts tell us that there is something strange in how he says these things, then we will know that there is something wrong, that he is lying to us at some point. It is easier to know if someone is lying when we meet the person, because we are used to their gestures and the way they say things, so in these cases we will only have to try to find the difference. Think about how you would tell us any day if that were true.
Excuses for no reason
There is an expression that says 'Excusatio non petita, accusatio manifes'. This means that when someone gives us excuses about something without our having asked them, it is that they are accusing themselves without knowing it. For example, if a person cheats on his partner, when he arrives with her he will give excessive explanations about where he has been, with all the details, as a prepared excuse. This I would not do if I had nothing to hide.
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