I don't think there is any parent in the world (who is in their right mind) who wants to view their children with a lack of confidence or low self-esteem. But unfortunately this is not always the case and we can't get everything we want. There are too many children who do not have confidence in themselves and as parents it is our job to fill that void so that they realize that they can have confidence in themselves, because if they want they can achieve anything they set out to do!
If you have a son or daughter, be it a boy or a teenager, here are some helpful ways to boost your confidence and that in this way your self-esteem improves and has a greater chance of success in the future. Do not lose detail and remember that you are his best role model, his best teacher and his best unconditional support. Your children need you!
Acknowledge their feelings
Like you, your child also has feelings and if one day you notice him sad, you need to take into account what is happening to him and try to discover what is happening to him or why do you feel depressed. Thus, if you help your child to discover it together with him, he will learn to identify the underlying problem and to focus on effective solutions instead of focusing on the underlying problems.
Help him see reality
Children, like some adults, are usually their worst critics for feeling that they are not meeting the appropriate standards (many times those standards are impossible and irrational) that are established in society, something that will pay a great bill to their confidence . On the other hand, if as a parent you offer an objective and more optimistic vision about what is really happening, then you can quickly turn your thoughts into more real ones. For example, if your child complains that he is a horrible student, make him see that he is a good student but that he just has to spend a little more time studying a particular subject.
Never compare him
Comparisons are hateful so you should never compare him with his siblings or with other children in the world. By eliminating comparisons, you are helping him to have better self-esteem and to minimize rivalry between siblings and other people. You won't need to prove anything to the world and you will be able to prove your true worth.
Don't miss out on the right compliments
Parents are often used to telling children how badly they do things and how they should do things better (or in their own way). But unfortunately they forget the most important thing: praise them when they do things well.. If you want to complement your child's confidence and really listen to you And do not stop doing it because you always scold him, it is necessary that you praise him as long as he does things well and that he deserves it.
But it is best to do it especially when there are other adults in front of you and who knows how well you do things. Enjoy showing off as a child and show your child that you do not say it to increase his self-esteem, but because you really believe it.
Create a positive environment at home
They say that the home environment is very important for a child to be confident in himself. There needs to be a positive environment at home where you can create good self-esteem in children and that he is also capable of evaluating himself for who he is and not for what he has.
Do you also help your son to have a better self-esteem and to grow his confidence in himself?