If your child feels sad, discouraged, apathetic, etc ... sometimes words are unnecessary, a gesture of affection is more necessary so that your child feels loved and protected. People subconsciously associate physical heat with emotional heat. This bond occurs from infancy, when babies learn to connect with the warmth of being held and nurtured by their parents with a sense of security and care.
When a child has physical contact with his parents and feels the warmth of close affection, you will learn to have close relationships of trust throughout life. Although people do not remember having been breastfed, having been transported by a baby carrier, or that our parents gave us all the love and affection through their hugs, the warmth they feel becomes a fundamental part of us.
If you want to come for your child in a time of emotional distress, sometimes it is not necessary to use words to get it. Next we are going to give some ideas so that you can transmit comfort and security in delicate moments.
Raise the temperature at home
Have a comfortable temperature at home so that children feel closer to the people around them.nIn a Dutch study, 4-6 year olds were given lots of colorful stickers and told they could share them with a friend. Children in a warm room were more willing to share their stickers than children in a cooler room.
In addition, the study found a very significant data: only those children who had been found to be securely attached to their parents shared more stickers in the warm room. This is further proof that the unconscious association between warm temperature and emotional warmth is established from birth.
Soup or hot chocolate
It seems that it has nothing to do with feeling good about drinking something hot, how can it affect our behavior? There is actually a strong connection between the body and the mind that manifests itself when we drink hot drinks. There are studies that show how different things were asked of the participants that influenced their behavior.
First half of the participants were asked to hold something hot, such as a hot cup of coffee, and half were asked to hold something cold, such as a cup of iced coffee. The participants had no idea that this was part of the study. They then went through various tests that measured how they felt. In all studies, subjects who initially had hot coffee were more likely to have warm feelings towards others than those who had iced coffee.
Snuggle up next to your child
Neuroscientists have found that a part of the brain called the insula is activated in response to both types of heat: when a person touches a heating pad or when sending text messages to family and friends. A different specific section of the insula is activated both when a person is somewhat cold or when he is coldly treated or betrayed by someone. To counteract these bad feelings, snuggle together with your child and hug him so that he feels that you are by his side to protect him at all times.
These tips to comfort without using words are also suitable for you, because even if you use them with your children, they can also go well when you have a problem or feel emotionally distressed. They are easy things that you can do in a simple way and get you to have a better body and emotional warmth.