Breakups are painful for both the one who is breaking up and the one who has to break up. You know that something has changed between you and your boyfriend and you know in your heart that the desire to work things out with him just doesn't exist. You want to get out of the relationship but you don't know how to start. How do you tell them? Do you just say "I'm breaking up with you" and expect him to just take it as is, no questions asked? Do you write him a letter, pack your bags and leave without looking back? Do you just disappear out of nowhere? No, it is not always possible to do this and less, if you have children.
We know that ending a relationship with someone you love is never easy, and if it ever was, the chances of moving on wouldn't have been that difficult for those who broke up. The truth is, there is no easy way to break up with your partner, but there is a right way to do it: break up with him as an adult. How do you do that exactly? Keep reading and you will find out.
Don't delay the inevitable
You know very well that you have already fallen out of love, why prolong the agony for you and for him? Why wait for the perfect moment? Yes, we know that timing is everything, but remember that in every rule, there is an exception. This situation is one of those. We know it can be pretty scary, but Trust us when we say that the sooner you tell him you're breaking up with him, the better.
Tell it to your face
Forget about social networks or instant messaging programs ... Writing a letter and leaving it on your bed to read when you get home will not be enough either. These are immature ways to break up with him and should be avoided at all costs. Here's what we recommend: set a date and time (somewhere private) for when you drop the bomb. Then tear off the band-aid and tell him face to face.
Yes, it can get ugly if he doesn't accept your decision, but at the very least, you were respectful enough to personally fire you. We're sure he'll prefer that to you playing the ghost with him.
Use real words: we have broken
There is no better word to use when ending your relationship with him than those two words. Don't sugarcoat or underestimate anything. Doing so will only make you feel more insulted than you already are by what is happening. Whether he deserves it or not, do him one last favor and just give it to him in the kindest way you can.
Tell him if you leave him for another
If you are not honest with him about why you are breaking up with him, it will have a huge effect on how he will walk away from you. If he knows that someone has already replaced him in your heart, it is likely that it will be easier for him to heal and move on. But if you don't, don't you think he can knock on your door over and over again, convincing you that your relationship deserves a second chance? It's up to you.
And remember ... no one is to blame.