How to break up with a friendship without feeling bad

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Having real friends is not easy, but when a friendship becomes toxic or is not sincere, it is better to end it as soon as possible. We all have friends, and some are better than others. But sometimes you can hold on to friends because it is easier not to break up with them than to find new ones. Although as the saying goes: "It is better to be alone than in bad company".

Why are there people who do this? Is having bad friends better than having no friends at all? Not at all ... The most important thing is that you learn to differentiate good friends from bad ones, and the ones that don't go well with you ... Just get it out of your life.

Do not accumulate friendships that are not convenient

It's too easy to build up friendships, because friends aren't monogamous, so you don't have to get rid of someone. Seeing your friends on Facebook (the ones from high school, the ones at summer camp, the ones who are friends with the person you were seeing) and doing a KonMari-style cleanup is pretty easy, But trying to explain to a friend's face that you don't want to know more about him is harder and more complicated.

Face the situation

Figuring out how to handle a particular situation is often a matter of deciding what the expectations and ultimate goal of that friendship are; Maybe it's just about keeping in touch at surface level, or maybe it's about setting certain kinds of boundaries. 

You should also think about whether or not you like yourself when you are with them. Friends can take bad things out of you and make you competitive, sarcastic, materialistic, critical, or lazy. The more time you spend with that person, if you are not who you want to be, you will not reach your goal and it is better to put them aside.

Sometimes a break is good

If those friendships don't fill you up or you realize they're not real, then breaking up with them is the best way to keep moving forward in your life without having a burden that is making it difficult for you to be good with yourself.

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It's also possible that negative vibes are just part of one phase in your relationship, and for whatever reason (like you've just got engaged or are preoccupied with a momentary drama), your friend is particularly insufferable for a short period of time.

Maybe you are not the best with this person because there is a trigger; you're frustrated, but it's not a long-term problem. You have to walk away and find out if this is particular to that one friendship, or if it is something you are struggling with in general. Think: am I insecure and competitive, and are all my friends making me jealous? Am I the problem here or is it temporary?

If you decide that you don't want a friend in your life, you can start by taking the non-confrontational route and slowly walking away. You basically become a ghost, and you know how to do it: don't ask them so many questions, don't say yes to their invitations and take a little more time to answer them .. But this really only works if it's a mutual dance, and the other person neither does he want to be in friendship; otherwise you are just being rude.

If there comes a time when the other person does not understand what is happening, then you will have to be honest with them. Nobody wants to have this kind of conversation But if there is a conflict, it will be necessary to do so in order to communicate your point of view and settle the friendship in the best possible way.


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