We are in the Tinder era and many people decide to meet people through the networkss. However, in the vast majority of cases, this leads to fatigue, as expectations can be high and results disappointing. We must start this process by following several guidelines so as not to fall into false relationships, endless online conversations that lead to nothing or disastrous appointments that will only prevent us from returning to these applications.
Many women who use dating apps, because there are also many. From Tinder to Adopt a Uncle or Badoo we find a catalog of people who want to meet other people. It can be tempting to make such a choice, but in the long run, if we are looking for something serious and interesting, we may end up tired, with wear and tear that will cause us to withdraw from these networks.
Selection method
Although in principle we can get excited when we see so many possibilities of meeting people and we start having dates left and right, the truth is that this can saturate us, causing us to finally not know how to choose well. In principle we have to be aware that it has to attract us physically, but the spark can also arise if we have things in common, so it is important stand a bit on people's introductions. This can tell us something about your personality and your tastes. Their photos also tell us things about that person, about their hobbies and their way of being. In case something attracts us, we can give the go-ahead. Then comes the second selection, in which we have conversations with that person. This can already tell us a bit what they are looking for, what they are like and if they are interested. It is like a second selection where we can already decide with whom we are going to have a date. The time of the appointment is important, we have to think that we should not give it to just anyone or have meaningless appointments. Only then will we get good experiences.
Learn to recognize lack of interest
This is important, because there are many guys who are on these networks to get as many hookups as possible and they dedicate themselves to making each other sick. There are some terms that have even emerged from this type of new relationship, such as ghosting for example is that situation in which the individual disappears for no apparent reason. This type of behaviors only indicate that there is really no interest by the other person as to continue to know each other or make another appointment. It is important to recognize and accept this so that you are not wasting time with someone who really does not deserve it. And this is true for all relationships, since sometimes we make excuses to ourselves to continue with something when the other person is clearly making us dizzy. If there is interest it shows and the two people do what they can to stay and see each other. It's that simple.
Keep an open mind
In the world of online dating, sometimes great people can escape us because of a bad photo or a presentation that has not been very careful or does not say much about that person. Is difficult to present oneself through a digital medium. It is never the same as knowing the person, so if there is something about that person that attracts us, it is important to open our minds and get to know them, since on many occasions it can surprise us. Of course, the opposite can also happen. In any case, for that we have the possibility of talking to the person through networks before having an appointment, to see if we can like him enough to meet him in person.
Enjoy the experience
First of all, don't take things too seriously. Although it is not a matter of wasting time or getting discouraged, this can also be a fun new experience. Sporadic adventures or friendships may arise that we await, so each step must be enjoyed. Only then will we not turn this into something negative that discourages us.