In schools they want children to study and learn the lessons, but they do not teach them to study. When a child without insecurity in the face of the study he has carried out for an exam, he may feel a lot of anxiety for fear of doing it wrong. This anxiety can paralyze a good study and that although I know the lesson, I cannot translate it into the exam. Then you will have a bad grade AND you will think that you are not capable of doing well.
For this reason, it is necessary for children to learn to control the anxiety they may feel before an exam. Anxiety can cause you a lot of nerves, tachycardia, stomach aches and headaches. This happens because of the fear of not doing well or feeling incapable.
Security and trust
No matter what exam is more or less difficult, it matters that your children have enough confidence in themselves to know that they have studied enough they will do everything they can. ANDThe result will not be so important when the effort is sufficient. With a great effort in the study, your children will feel more confident in the results they can obtain.
It is very important to follow a strict study organization, to have a routine every afternoon, to have a weekly agenda to know what to study at all times and above all to have the lessons studied for the day.
Emphasize the joy of learning and not the routines to study
The conjugation of irregular verbs in French in the future tense may seem like one more obstacle to getting through the school year, until you tell your children about the wonderful uses of knowing a foreign language, such as being able to fluently order a menu in a Paris bistro. It is necessary to make children understand the importance of knowing languages, the use of mathematics in daily life, the importance of language or knowing history.
Be more aware of positive results
If your child has completed his homework, reviewed everything, practiced with the exercises, and studied his daily lesson, then now is the time to relax. Before your child goes to bed, you can help him visualize some of his studies and then talk about other topics that have nothing to do with it. And before he prepares the backpack for school the next day, see with him that he has everything well done. Look at him with confidence, knowing that your child has done things well and that you can trust him.
Needs your unconditional support
So that your child does not feel anxiety before the exams, he must trust himself and to achieve this, you must first trust him in him and also in all his possibilities. Your child needs you and needs your unconditional support to study. He needs you to guide him and help him in the learning process.
At school they don't give emotional support or teach study strategies. That must be learned separately, for this reason, your help is essential. If you do not feel capable of doing it or you think that you lack knowledge to guide your child in his study, do not worry because you can take your child to a psychopedagogue to guide him in his tasks. If you do not have psychopedagogues near your home, you can consider the option of requesting a consultation online from a trusted psychopedagogue that you know or have recommended.
It is also very important that you show your child that it is more important to enjoy the process and learn than to think only about the result. While it is true that the result is important, the world does not end by failing an exam ... you learn from mistakes so you can do better next time.