Personal conversations with your child are crucial to harnessing a child's intrinsic motivation. Children are naturally curious, and inviting them to understand why something makes sense can engage their intellect.
Parents often bribe their children to behave while shopping with the promise of a toy or candy "because it works." But the reality is that children behave better with those who do not bribe, but make everything a life lesson. For example, if your child cleans his bedroom, you can point out how beautiful it looks. Children need to know the why of things, such as why the bedroom needs to be neat to keep it clean and organized.
Think like your son
If you have children who resist the motivation to do things well, ideally, you should begin to see things through your child's eyes. Then talk about the importance of the activity in a respectful way. If your child does not want to clean his room because he is tired from extracurricular activities, you can say something like: "Why don't you rest and after snack you can fix your room so that you can find everything you need to do your homework?" Refrain from using language like "should" and "have" ... it is also important that you offer your help in case it is needed.
Ask how it feels
Asking your child how it feels to do a particular task while doing it can also contribute to the kind of happy environment that makes children want to cooperate. Questions like: "What do you think about doing your homework by yourself?" and "How does it make you feel to have finished that task now?" It can lead children to ideas they might not otherwise have had about their accomplishments.
Another effective strategy for getting kids to break a bad habit: Show empathy by asking how you can help. In this way the parent and child are placed on the same side against the problem behavior, rather than staging a battle.
Children's solutions for problem behaviors often work better than those suggested by parents, because children are interested in their solutions working ... In this sense, when a conflict arises, trust your child's thinking and if you think so well what it tells you, then just do it! Your child also wants to be well and do things correctly, so his creativity can help a lot in this.
You can also motivate your children by providing feedback during conversations about how they handle their responsibilities. Instead of taking a trip to the park as a reward for doing homework, try catching your kid one day when he's finished at a decent time. As you go to the park, point out that the natural consequence of Doing her homework early allowed her time to have fun later. This natural consequence thinking will help your child do the right thing for himself next time.