Throughout our lives we realize that being happy is a matter of attitude and of trying to do so every day. It is clear that there are things that we cannot control, but beyond that we ourselves we can choose to be happy and carry on with a smile, enjoying what life has given us.
There is some habits we fall into almost without realizing and that can make us tremendously unhappy. It is a problem to continue with them and not get to identify them, since they can harm us psychologically and be a great burden in the long run. That is why we must learn to recognize them.
Complain without trying to change things
One of the worst things we can do is complain constantly but without trying to change things. It makes us very unhappy to be talking about a situation that we do not like and about which we complain but that we accept because we do not really consider facing it and changing it. Changes are very scary and not everyone is prepared to face them, but not changing the things that make us unhappy or at least not trying to try can be even worse. Keeping ourselves in a situation that takes happiness away from us is something really harmful that turns off our spirits and will. Therefore, we must arm ourselves with courage and face that any change is better than doing nothing.
Do things we don't like
It is true that we all have to carry out tasks that we may like more or less. But it is important not let's spend the day doing something we really don't like. You have to work to survive, but we can always improve and find a job that we like, something that we are passionate about and in which to invest our time. It is common for unhappy people to spend the day doing things they do not like, to end the day without wanting the next to come. Break away from that and focus on everything you like.
Live from the past or the future
Clinging to the past or constantly thinking about an uncertain future that is not yet real can be two things that make us unhappy. Especially because of the fact that they keep us away from the present, the one we are living in and gives us all the opportunities. So take note of that and open your eyes to your present.
Being pessimistic about life
The pessimist will always see the glass as half empty. To be pessimistic is a matter of attitude. Faced with a situation, we have seen people who deal with it in a positive way and others in a negative way. Whatever the result, the positives are more likely to get what they want because they believe in it and also face defeat as a lesson. That is why we must learn to be much more positive.
Seek approval from others
Another thing we should avoid in this life is always seek approval and permission from others. It is an attitude that is only going to bring us displeasure, since they are not going to live our life or assume the consequences of our decisions. Nowadays it is common for social networks to try to live towards others, showing what we think they want to see. But this attitude takes us away from who we really are and fills us with uncertainty and regret for not really accepting who we are.
Seeing yourself as victims of the events
All the unhappy people always think that everything that happens to them is something they cannot control. It is always the fault of others or the universe. With this idea we will think that we have no power over our happiness or our destiny, which will make us more unhappy. We must not feel like victims or we will become this type of person.