Being afraid of childbirth is one of the most normal feelings that you can feel when you are pregnant. ignorance, uncertainty, not being able to control how the moment will unfold, are factors that cause confusion and much fear. However, your body is perfectly prepared to face the birth of your baby, so you must prepare your mind so that it is in accordance with your body.
You may have heard stories that have left you full of fears, experiences of other women that can even make other women forget the idea of wanting to be mothers. When you are pregnant, it is essential that you avoid listening to these kinds of stories, especially if you are already afraid of childbirth. Facing it with a positive attitude is the first step, remember that it is the only date in which you will really meet the love of your life.
Fear of childbirth or complications
More than fear of giving birth, the general feeling is fear of pain, of not being able to bear it or that complications may arise. All women who are going to be mothers know that childbirth hurts, that is irremediable because your body transforms completely so that a life can arise from you. But the pain is not the same in all cases, it depends on many factors and that is the first thing you should be clear about, do not compare yourself.
With each contraction you will be closer to having your baby with you and your body is perfectly prepared for it, you are fully capable of creating that masterpiece that is life. Therefore, what you must work on is the mind, the mental strength you need to face that moment with serenity. To control and cope with fear, it is very important that any doubts be resolved as much as possible.
Bearing in mind that each birth is different and can develop in a totally different way than expected, having some information will help you prepare mentally for it. Talk openly with your midwife, explain your doubts and fears and ask her to explain what the possible scenarios are and how each of them can develop. Information is power, but the excess of it can become counterproductive.
The childbirth preparation course
Doing the childbirth preparation course or maternal education course, as it is also known, is of great help and all pregnant women should go through it, even those who are not first timers. In these sessions you will not only learn basic questions about the baby's first moments at home. You will learn to detect the symptoms of childbirth, exercises that will help you prepare your body physically and, above all, to control your breathing, which is key in childbirth.
Breathing is so important that controlling and managing pain will largely depend on how you manage it. Therefore, it is advisable, in addition to doing the maternal education course, some prenatal yoga classes. Because it is a perfect exercise for pregnant women in every way. Yoga postures will help you prepare your body physically. As for breathing, you will be able to control the pain of contractions much better and you will have greater control over your emotions.
In short, being afraid of childbirth is normal and you should not hide it at any time. Talk to your midwife, your partner and the people you trust the most. Look for positive opinions, experiences with which you can learn and discover things to help you deal with the nerves of childbirth. And above all, try to connect with your baby while he is still inside you.
Talk to him and explain that soon you will be together, visualize yourself with your baby in your arms and feel the power of your body that is capable of creating life, sheltering it inside and giving it shelter for many months. And as if all this were not enough, with your body you will give life to the most special being of your own life.