All couple relationships, have associated difficulties of greater or less intensity that can affect the course of the same. There is no relationship without discussions, confrontations or problems at any given time. However, there is a phenomenon that, although not new, occurs more frequently today: distance relationships.
The economic and labor situation that we are going through, increasingly forces us to move away from our places of origin. This, among other things, supposes a distance not only from our home, but also, on many occasions, a physical separation from our partner. A long distance relationship does not have to be a relationship doomed to failure, but it is true that it has certain associated problems. Read on and don't make the most common mistakes!
Possible lack of commitment
With the idea that the relationship is more likely to fail, we unconsciously set ourselves up for possible failure. This, on many occasions, generates a lack of commitment on the part of either party, or both. The thought of «And why commit myself 100% if you don't know what will happen». When this approach is more present in a single member of the couple, fears and mistrust appear in the other. Result ?: greater degree of discomfort and, therefore, greater number of discussions.
The distance and the jealousy
Although jealousy can appear in all types of relationships, it is true that in situations in which we are not close to our partner, it can become a major problem. This happens because information about what our partner does is scarce. To this is added the fear that the other person, due to the little contact, will end up demotivated and find more attractive options closer to home.
Uncertainty
The perception that the distance between us is going to be with greater security, a source of fear and difficulties, is in itself another associated problem. If we are not careful, we will end up using this as excuse for the appearance of negative thoughts that will lead to the appearance of pessimistic behaviors before our partner.
When we anticipate something happening, even before it has happened, we unconsciously increase the probability that it will happen. Control these types of thoughts and convince yourself that if something has to happen, it will. But don't be the one who provokes it solely out of fear of what may happen.
Time to enjoy together
The time that we are with our partner we enjoy it, or so we should do. But still, the shadow of the soon-to-come "goodbye" hovers over us. This anticipation of parting works as a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it is a sign of how well we find each other and the little desire that we have to separate. But for another, If this feeling takes hold of us, we will be wasting the time we share. Sadness and melancholy can end up intoxicating us to the point of taking over "our moment" together, preventing us from enjoying it properly.
When we will meet?
La Meeting planning can lead to stressful moments for both members of the couple. It may be difficult to coincide in free time due to responsibilities. Or there may be complaints on the part of one because he thinks that the other moves much less through the relationship. Either for some things or for others, there are frequent discussions due to the planning of the meetings.
Absence of physical contact
This is perhaps one of the biggest drawbacks of long distance relationships. The intimate moments with our partner, the caresses, the eye contact, the physical closeness ... When these are null or very scarce, they can greatly reduce our relationship. With these behaviors, we feel better about ourselves and we strengthen the knowledge we have about each other. In this way, we strengthen the affective bond making the relationship stronger.