It is an increasingly common reality: many of us have to maintain our couple relationship in the distance. Today it is very common that, for work and even academic reasons, we must separate ourselves from the other person with all the consequences that this entails. And not only that. According to various statistics, the number of people who start a relationship in the distance thanks to new technologies and social networks is very high. It is, without a doubt, a new way of establishing affective bonds that vary, slightly, from the classic conception of the couple relationship.
But are these types of relationships stable and satisfactory for their members? Obviously not, it's not what you expect. There is a certain insecurity, longing and even fear that, at a given moment, said union will weaken until it is lost. It is not easy, hence from Bezzia We want to give you some keys to keep in mind so that you do not lose your enthusiasm. So that this time in which you must remain separated for whatever reasons, does not mean an end at all, but a stage that the couple is able to cope and cope with success.
Keys to keep my relationship at a distance
1. Trust in the other person
Confidence is without a doubt the foundation you can maintain a long distance relationship. And one aspect to keep in mind is that not all people are capable of establishing and supporting these types of realities. The most distrustful personalities or with a fairly high profile of jealousy, will carry with great difficulty that day to day where if there is no sincere bond of trust with each other, it is very difficult for the couple to maintain themselves over time.
It should also be said that it is normal to feel "fear", to feel a certain insecurity when thinking about whether our partner will continue to love us despite the lack of contact, despite not being with them and thinking that they are in turn related to other people. Hence, it is advisable to also transmit these momentary doubts to our partner but always in a balanced way, without becoming a obsession. Keep in mind that the other person also misses you and that, without a doubt, they have the same fears as you.
2. The use of new technologies
Think for a moment how the relationships of our mothers or grandmothers must have been in those times when they were forced to travel abroad to work or study, leaving their partners in their place of origin. Letters and phone calls were the only means of contact. And still, many of these relaciones they were maintained in time. Today we have it easier. In fact, there are many couples that originate from these channels. Couples who know each other through social networks and that, for a while, this is their only way to get to know each other and nurture the relationship.
El mobile phone, skype, whatsapp… Etc, they are excellent mechanisms to have a daily contact. But there is a limit. We should not use these instruments to "control" the other person at every moment. Being a police officer is not being a couple. We must respect, trust and look for that moment when it is good for both of us to communicate, to know about each other.
3. Distance is for a purpose
Obviously no relationship is going to be forever at a distance. The fact that a couple is separated is due to specific reasons, for purposes that have a limit in time and whose purpose is understood by both, and this should be clear. One of the two may have left to find work, to open a path in which the other person will later join in the same destination. Perhaps, we should leave to complete our academic training, to do that master's degree or that specialization that will later affect our personal and work future. In other words, the reason that has caused the couple to separate must be understood and respected by both. If at any point reproaches such as "this happens because you chose to leave and leave me" begin to appear, then the relationship will begin to suffer. And it is a risk.
4. How to live without having our partner with us?
As we have said before, for many people this is not possible. There are those who need to a greater degree that daily contact, that closeness and that kind of control when knowing about our partner almost every moment. It is understandable. But we must remember that sometimes, life puts us this type of tests, and overcoming them will be a way of demonstrating our personal maturity and the strength of the bond with the person we love. We have to trust and rebuild our relationship in another way. We have to support, to remove fears from the other person by showing our affection, we have to motivate ourselves for that day tomorrow when the reunion takes place and everything has been worth it. A long-distance relationship can be successful as long as we act as mature, confident and confident people. good self-esteem.
To conclude, these types of relationships are very frequent today and put many of our values and our emotions to the test. If your relationship is sincere and happy, you will make every effort to keep it in time despite the distance. Think of it as an endurance test, a personal test whose objective it will be worth it tomorrow.