If you find a way to increase your energy, you will make the difference between your well-being and fatigue in raising your children.. It is in the nature of parenting that the joys and pleasures of the past turn into stress and anxiety… frustrations can consume a great deal of physical, mental and emotional energy. It is in your power to increase energy and make a difference in your well-being and in how you treat your children.
Be the best version of yourself
Sometimes when parents are stressed, they can treat their children in a more negative way than if they feel good about themselves and their environment. If you are within your wellness zone, you will be the best version of yourself, but of course, you must be at that point to achieve it. This area is also known as "Zone of resilience" or "window of tolerance". In this area you will feel good and happy, you will be calm and connected with others.
You'll feel like you can cope with life's ups and downs, tune in to your kids, and recover from setbacks. If the going gets tough, you will find it easier to find creative ways to meet your challenges. In this wellness area you will always be the best version of yourself.
The reason for this increased capacity is that our brain works better when we are relaxed and feeling good. We have better access to the more evolved parts of the brain, which helps us think intelligently and creatively and make better decisions. Conversely, when we are outside of our wellness zone, we feel overwhelmed, out of control, or upset. We are inundated with stress hormones and primitive parts of the brain take over to offer urgent survival responses, such as fight or flight.
Parents may recognize this in furiously shouted outbursts, such as: »I've had enough of this! Go to your room!' 'Stop or no iPad for a week!' Or maybe even hitting a child or attacking with insults. From our brain's point of view, when we feel this way, it overrides our rational intelligence, as well as our ability to think creatively, see the bigger picture and respond from a place of love.
Sometimes our angry reaction helps make things happen or get our message across. But too often, when pushed to the limit, parents can feel agitated, helpless, and regretful of their actions. Simply put, when we have a strong relationship with our wellness zone, we become better parents and healthier in mind and body.
Unfortunately, the rigors of not just parenting, but also fast-paced and demanding modern life mean that many of us find ourselves outside the wellness zone more often than we should ... We can connect and empower ourselves. our zone of well-being and resilience by deliberately making things help us feel good. Find a time to meditate and you will be able to be more often in this area of well-being that is so important to you and your family.