No, you don't have to be perfect but you can be excellent for other people, with your strengths and weaknesses. Sometimes, imperfection is what makes us really perfect in the eyes of others, of those who love us unconditionally every day of their lives: children and partner. Well, the father of your children can also be all this. Father, partner, lover, friend ... this article is for them!
Being a great father to your children also means being a great lover, best friend, partner supporter, and patient with children. It's one of life's greatest challenges, but it can be done.
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When you create a family the rules of the game in the couple change. Your baby doesn't care about your comfort or happiness, he just wants you to satisfy his basic needs, now. No waiting. The time with the couple will be kept under lock and key. The demands of your partner for emotional and economic resources will also increase radically, it is necessary by and for the family that you are creating.
Babies are selfish by nature, but as the years go by, adolescence arrives, which is more of the same and even worse. Being a good parent and not allowing passion to get by is challenging, but it is possible. That is how.
Keep the flame of passion and love alive
Speech
Talk to your partner, maintain good communication since it is the most important aspect in any relationship. When there are children in a family it is difficult to communicate and. You have less time for it. Therefore, you have to look for conscious moments to do it. Talk about things that matter to you: parenting, money, hopes, dreams, fears, expectations, disappointment, joys ... talk about everything with your partner. It is important to do so.
Love him
It's easy to forget to show your partner your love when your children are constantly absorbing your time. You will have to become an expert of the heart, listen and understand everything they tell you. Find out how it has to be loved, tune in to it. Don't let the demands of life and parenting drown your soul.
Love yourself
In order to love others, you must first love yourself. Be aware of your own needs and state of mind. Parenting is a demanding job. You are a very, very important man in the lives of your children and in the life of your partner. Do what you need to do to stay healthy in mind, body, and soul. They need you and they need you to be happy and healthy.
Connect
It takes quality time to be a good parent and a good partner. Your children need you and you must be present and fully engaged. Your partner needs the exact same thing from you. Prioritize your family above all things. There is nothing more important than giving them your time. Quality time with them is the biggest investment you can make. Turn off your mobile, social networks, the television ... enjoy your partner and your children. They are your treasure.