"In love anything goes", "any effort or sacrifice for our partner is worth it." If you are one of those who usually believe these common statements, you are making a mistake. In couple relationships, not everything is permissible and not everything can be justifiable. We must remember above all that a healthy relationship must be based above all on enrichment, freedom and respect. From the moment we started giving up, we started losing.
We must not leave the keys to our growth and our happiness in the pocket of our partner. It is essential that the commitment is based on mutual trust, where we can continue to maintain our identity, our customs, friendships and needs. Those that allow us enjoy who we are, with our self-concept and self-esteem. There are therefore some basic dimensions that you should not give up. We explain them below.
5 things you should not give up in your relationship with a partner
1. The right to decide for yourself
Always listen to the voice of the person you love, but never stop listening to your inner voice. Maintaining an optimal and stable relationship requires, as you already know, negotiating almost every day. The reaching agreements. It is clear that on more than one occasion we will give up something, it is something usual, but do not allow them to silence your opinion or your choice at any time.
We have the right to decide and give voice to our thoughts, just as we also have the duty to listen to the other in order to establish a optimal and effective communication. Sometimes there are personality profiles that do not accept alternative or critical opinions too well, people who do not see well that their partners have their own voice. Prevent this from happening, always decide for yourself. It is a value and a necessity that we must never lose.
2. The need to be understood
There is nothing more special than being understood by our partner and also understanding the person we love. This allows us to have a unique union, a complicity adequate with which to strengthen our relationship. In order to understand someone we must know how to listen, know how to understand and understand. And obviously, this is the same as we expect from our partners.
It should be noted that it is an aspect that many couples often complain about: "My boyfriend does not understand me", "My wife does not understand what I say" ... these are common expressions where this clear problem of communication and understanding appears. But there is something that must be clear, to understand it is necessary not only to know how to listen, but also have will and care for the other.
3. Right to be happy
All people have the right to find happiness in those things that make us feel good. Loving someone and feeling loved is undoubtedly a fundamental pillar, but then there are also those fundamental aspects that we should not underestimate. Having, for example, our own personal space, there where we can continue to grow personally and professionally. Have your work, your circle of friends, that independence that should not be at all at odds with maintaining a relationship.
The happiness it is built day by day and in the little things. A trip to the movies with friends, planning a trip, buying a book, having dinner with colleagues… these are daily dimensions that we don't have to give up. If things as simple as these are not well received by our partner, it will be a problem to take into account. We need to live a life that allows us to smile every day.
4. Your tranquility and your inner peace
Maybe this statement suddenly seems to you something transcendental. But sometimes we can maintain a type of relationship with high emotional costs, for example. Relationships in which we receive more suffering than tranquility. Toxic loves where we must be continuously showing our love and our trust towards the other. Relationships where mistrust makes us suffer, where we sense that we are not loved as we wish ... all of this leads us into a state of anxiety and concern that sometimes is not worth maintaining.
We must maintain balance, aspire to a stable relationship that, in addition to happiness, provides us with peace of mind and security. So do not give up these essential aspects.
5. Do not give up any of your social relationships
The moment your partner does not accept or even prohibits you from seeing any of your friends, colleagues or those people who are important to you within your social circle, they are isolating you from the world. They are relegating you to a closed circle where sooner or later you will end up suffocating. Wanting is not possessing or dominating. Love is also knowing how to offer freedom, because under it trust is always nurtured.
Nothing and no one should interfere with all those people who are important to you: friends or family. Because they are part of your identity and who you are. They are also the ones who allow us to maintain our self-esteem, our identity. Do not give up those you love for your partner, because sooner or later it will be too high a cost that will bring you nothing but frustration and unhappiness.
To conclude, always remember that maintaining a relationship always requires efforts and maybe some resignation. But there are basic dimensions that we should not let go of, especially those that are part of who we are and that build our emotional well-being. To love someone is to add in all aspects, never to subtract. Relationships are not based on obedience, but on the affection and respect.