If you still do not have children but you are considering it, there are some questions that it is better that you take into account before taking the step. Society, family and friends may be reminding you that "it is time" to have children, But the reality is that the decision is yours and nobody else's (and your partner's in case you don't want to be a single mother). Now more than ever women have the reins of their future and consider many things before becoming mothers.
You have to think about your profession, your lifestyle, your dreams and your compatibility with your partner before committing to the responsibility of having children. Whenever you get the “fever” of having children, keep the following in mind.
You must choose your partner with caution
Love is wonderful, but love as a couple is one thing and parenting is quite another. That you are in love with your partner does not guarantee that the relationship will be successful. Nobody wants to have children with the wrong partner. Before deciding that it is the right time to have children, you will need to talk openly with your partner to see if the two of you are on the same path. You can talk about:
- Financial stability
- Joint and separate future goals
- The desire to have children
Being a father or mother is an incredible experience, but you should only share it with your partner if he or she is also on the same level as you ... You must have similar beliefs and life goals for all to go well.
Know yourself
Self-discovery is necessary and personal development should not be put aside because it is essential to motherhood or fatherhood. Bringing children into the world is a great responsibility. It is advisable to be the best version of yourself because your child will admire you. As time goes by, goals and beliefs will change but a child always needs a role model to look up to and that example should be you.
To be a mother you don't need to be a superwoman, but you do need to have some emotional balance to enhance the parenting experience and reduce the daily stress that parenthood and motherhood entail.
Train yourself
You may know many stories of grandmothers telling you how to successfully parent children… While some things are good, others are best to think about child development research. Today there is a lot of information that you can benefit from to be able to raise your children successfully without having to stress yourself more than necessary. You can balance stress, the reality of motherhood, and the obstacles of daily life.
You are happy?
Are you really happy with your life? Is motherhood a way to cope with loneliness or an unsuccessful romantic relationship? Getting pregnant to fill a void in your life is not a good idea. Children need to grow in a healthy home environment with parents who are happy with their lives and relationships.