Motherhood is not easy and at times, you can feel that you hate being a mother, especially in the most difficult moments, those complicated days that never seem to end. There may be days when you really like motherhood, but it doesn't have to be this way every day and you don't have to feel guilty about it either.
Do not feel guilty because you are not the only one in the world to whom this happens. It is a much more common feeling than you can imagine right now. It is possible that you feel bad just thinking about it and even more if you say it out loud: hating being a mother ... But you love your children, and that's the truth, but you are tired and exhausted most of the time.
Your world is your children
Your world is your children, but it is normal that you miss the life you had before becoming a mother, that freedom without being dependent on you 24 hours a day. Maybe you hate knowing that the rest of your life will be dictated by someone else's needs. But your children will become less dependent on you as they grow older, So it is a good idea that you savor each moment because when they pass, they will not return.
sad children hugging his mother
They all tell you how fast everything happens, and that you should savor every second of this stage of the newborn or your young children. But you can really hate spending every moment feeding your baby, changing him, sleeping, trying to entertain him ... You want to get your old life back, where it was organized and I did things on your own schedule.
Things get better
Things get better from the first month, and they get better as they go by. You will realize that it is not that you do not love your baby, you are simply tired because sometimes motherhood is exhausting, and it is normal. The worst thing is that it seems that society does not allow you to feel this way, that to be a good mother you should be grateful for being tired all the time, but you don't have to be like that.
It is necessary to remember where people come from, but sometimes a woman, even a mother, just needs to vent. And after a particularly difficult day at home alone with your baby, that's what you have to do. Just instead of calling a friend and wondering if this all turned into a mommy mistake, you can share your feelings with your loved ones or even in internet support groups.
It can be cathartic, because expressing how you feel can make you feel better and that motherhood is actually precious and that you wouldn't trade it for the world… even if you sometimes miss your old life. In addition, listening to other mothers talk about their experiences will also help you understand that what you are going through is more normal than you think in times of maternal stress at home. Have you ever felt all of this in your life?