Motherhood is full of unforgettable moments, some good and others devastating, such as facing the disability of a child. When one dreams of her children, she imagines them in a certain way, the color of their hair, the shape of their nose or mouth. Even, you imagine what his professional future will be like, everything you would like to teach him or how to help your child to have great success in life.
All of that becomes fuzzy when one day the diagnosis of disability arrives. Regardless of the reason, be it a physical or intellectual disability, the blow is devastating. But one is still a mother, you are still vulnerable and need your support to continue growing like the child that she is. To help you in this process, we leave you these strategies to deal with a child's disability.
My son has a disability, why me?
It is normal that this is the first question that comes to your head, it is not selfish at all. It is a logical reaction of a human being suffering for what he wants most in life. Receiving the news is devastating, it paralyzes you, it leaves you devastated, you don't know how to react. Everything is the result of the uncertainty of not knowing what future awaits your son, because that's the scariest thing.
But the future is uncertain in any case and that is the first thing you should assess in order to face the disability of a child. One can make plans, but you will never know what the future holds and no one can guarantee it. So don't get martyred over time, live day by day and help your child to overcome every moment. As for the question that surely it haunts your head, perhaps the answer is that it has touched you because you are the perfect person to overcome this situation with your child.
Ask for professional help
Managing a problem of such magnitude is not easy and letting it sink you completely is fatal for yourself and for the well-being of your child. If you are not well you will not be able to help your son and he needs you very much. So do not miss the opportunity to ask for professional help. Therapy is essential to release your pain, to make sense of what you are feeling and most importantly, to find tools with which to manage this complicated situation.
Your child is still a child, that disability does not overshadow their childhood
The child does not understand that he has a disability, he does not feel different, he is just another child who needs his parents and trusted people to grow and be happy. Disability hurts, but it is just one more characteristic of your child. Don't let his problem overshadow or limit his childhood, look for alternatives according to their needs and help them live a happy childhood.
Don't hide the problem from others
Especially when the disability is not obvious or noticeable to the naked eye, mothers tend to hide the problem from other people so as not to expose their child. It's not about talking to just anyone about your child's needs, it is simply a matter of normalizing your condition. Everything that makes you different makes you unique too, don't hide or hide it, the more you talk about it, the more normal it will be for everyone else.
Streamline procedures and move on
When they confirm that your child has a problem, the unpleasant moment of carrying out painful administrative procedures arrives. Surely you have the desire to delay it, no matter how many feelings and guilt you may feel. But those steps that are necessary will have to come sooner or later, The sooner you fix it, the sooner you can move on..
Request the relevant appointments, manage the degree of disability and find out about all the aid available for your son in your city or Autonomous Community. Everything you can receive to improve your life and your future, must arrive as soon as possible. And the most important, if you have to cry, do it, but then wipe your tears and enjoy your son who will be for life.