As always, there are some drawbacks that arise from being in a relationship with an older man, this is mainly when the social stigma associated with him becomes very evident ... If you are with an older man and do not know whether to continue with the relationship, you will have to think about the and advantages what it supposes, but also in the disadvantages ...
Meet the family
When it comes to being in a relationship with an older man, you may have large cases of anxiety or it may just be a ball of nerves when it comes time to meet his family. You may even consider ending the relationship because the age difference is something that many parents disapprove of. This tends to be a big problem for women with fathers who are traditional, not open-minded and overly protective.
However, If you really care and love the man you're with then your parents will have to learn to live with it (it is very important to remember). Clearly, you don't care about the age difference, so treat that "parent meeting" date like any other.
He may tell his parents how you feel about him, information about your boyfriend, and their beneficial relationship. It is best to do this before they meet him as it is a good way to help them. Just don't bring up the age difference when you do this, let them hear how you feel about him and how amazing he is. They will discover the age difference when they meet him, hopefully what you told them will "ease the blow."
Different ways of living
While you are younger and trying to carry out your dreams through travel, risky business or even living abroad to be successful or achieve your goals. Your man will not participate. Unfortunately this is a big problem when dating an older man, because while you are still experimenting and exploring life, he already has.
Ironically, a pro to have a relationship with an older man is how he is ready to commit and settle down because he has already done so in so many other parts of life. Where as, you don't have, which makes this pro a problem in some cases.
Also, when you want to go out later at night or at a party, it may not because you are also done with that stage of life, so there are differences in life styles that collide, unless I am willing to try for you, and vice versa
Has the past
When you date an older man, you enter the relationship knowing that he has the past. However, you may have been married or engaged, had many relationships (some serious, some casual), or even children. Because he is older, there is no doubt that he has experienced and done much more than you.
Friends
His friends will wonder why you are with him and how you met. Your friends will ask the exact same question and may even change how they react to you. This problem is very similar to when you meet your parents.
Dating an older man can be the same as dating a younger man. There are a few amazing young men who are as mature, level-headed, caring, intelligent, loving, committed, loyal, and level-headed as an older man. However, the reality is that these men are few and far between and that makes having a relationship with an older man is the best option for most women.
I had almost always dated women (much) older than me until, when I was about 40, it happened that I dated a 10-year-old girl for 19 months. Two things that especially caught my attention from the experience:
- Being used to "real problems", I mean that when something happened that brought tension to the couple it was usually something really serious, the things that worried her for me were so easy to face that I lived super relaxed. It seemed to her that I had all the answers, and what I thought was "not all of them, but at least I had already studied the ones from these lessons when it was my turn."
- When you are with someone so different from you the only way for things to work out is for each of you to have a lot of space to maintain your identity. I needed time for my things that bored her, and I didn't want to get involved in her social life either because she didn't have anything in common with her friends (who by the way called me "the cunt") nor did it seem healthy for her to give up doing her life with them for me. And the thing is that one day I was surprised by something that told me: "With you I have all the advantages of having a partner and I have not lost all the advantages that I had by being single, I did not know that dating someone older than me was like that."
The thing ended when it had to end for reasons unrelated to age (as in any other couple, come on) but the atmosphere between us never stopped being good and the experience I think was positive for both of us. But I suppose it goes more with the person than with the circumstances.