Flexibility is necessary in raising children. When you are a parent that is too permissive or too authoritarian, the negative consequences will be noticeable, it is better to be flexible. Children need authority in order to develop properly, but at the same time, they will need flexibility in rules and limits.
Rules and limits are necessary for children to feel safe and secure. They need to know that their parents are in control of the situation and above all, they need to know that they can have some power in the decisions they make.
The consequences in flexible education
For there to be a flexible and adapted parenting for your children, you must determine the type of consequences that your children will have when they do not comply with the rules imposed at home. But these consequences should be known by your children, because only in this way will they be able to have some self-control in their decision-making. This will enhance your critical thinking and empathy with others and understanding of your own emotions.
You need to be flexible because what may work this week may not work for next week. Therefore, it is important to have conversations with children about acceptable and unacceptable behaviors.
Teaching strategies should change as your child grows older because the same strategy will not work for a 5-year-old as for a 15-year-old. It is necessary to be prepared for conversations with growing children so that you can understand each other in the discipline process and guiding the good behavior of your children.
Children must understand things
For children to have better behavior it is necessary that they understand the why of things and the rules. The clearer you can make the process to the child, the more likely things will be fair and right for everyone. Engage them in conversations about what they believe are just consequences it is also effective in establishing disciplinary measures for behavior.
Children need love and security all the time, since when there is unconditional love and respect for children, positive and effective discipline will automatically exist. The object is to show love to the children, both in good and in bad. Children should feel unconditionally loved regardless of the behavior they may have at any given time.
Love is part of discipline
Love of children is part of discipline, and it is also very necessary. If you love your child, want him to develop into an emotionally healthy and balanced adult, then discipline at home will be necessary all the time.
While disciplining children can be tiring, it is necessary for a peaceful and loving atmosphere in all directions at home. It is true that conflicts will exist throughout life, but the secret is in knowing how to handle the situation so that the situation does not handle you.