Sometimes you may feel that you are not the best or the best when it comes to raising your children. Maybe one day you will yell at them more than necessary because you are tired or you think that things are regular and you don't know what else to do. But if you feel like this it is because you also want to improve. Remember that if you want your children to grow up happy and well educated, the first thing is that you are well physically and mentally.
Children need an emotionally healthy and balanced mother and father so that in this way, they have good role models in terms of consistent behavior. Raising from respect and love is fundamental, but also, keep the following in mind Questions that you should ask yourself from today and every day so that they grow healthy.
Do you teach your child about money?
Your children need to understand the value of money. If, for example, you have downloaded games and spent the family money without realizing or without appreciating the importance of money, you will have to pay at home in some way, such as reducing the quota of your weekly pay or making additional tasks at home.
Children must learn to respect money, to know that it costs to earn it and that above all, they must learn to manage it responsibly. Only in this way can your child begin to have a healthy relationship with money. When I'm about six years old you can start to introduce a piggy bank so that it begins to save whenever it wants whims.
Do you hold your children responsible for their actions?
Children need some space to reflect on learning and compassion. They need to calm down so you can help them understand respect and care for themselves and others. If, for example, your child hurts the cat, you will have to teach him to see that attacking the animal is the same as mistreating and hurting.
You can ask him to imagine that he is the cat and that his tail has been pulled. If the cat has scratched him, you will have to tell him that this is the result of hurting him, the animal only tried to defend itself. Parents who blame and punish the cat, without holding their child responsible, will create problems for the future of their child and the well-being of the family itself. It is important to note that Your child won't learn anything about the importance of respecting animals if you blame the cat just for defending itself.
Do you positively reinforce your child's behavior?
Imagine that after work, you pick up your son from school and discover that he has all his new clothes full of paint. How do you react? Parents who have a good sense of humor will help them cope with whatever challenges their child presents. Remember that there is always a way to avoid the incident that will help your child learn from the mistake and avoid it in the future, such as putting on a gown before doing painting in class. You can too help him be more careful with his clothes and give him a positive trail when they come from school with clean clothes.
On the other hand, if you lash out at your children for dirtying their clothes, you are seriously damaging their self-esteem and you will not prevent them from avoiding you the next time.