Nangona ukubetha umntwana kungazange kwamkelwa, inyani kukuba isohlwayo somzimba yinto ekufuneka ithintelwe kwaye ingasetyenziswanga. Ukubetha abantwana kubonisiwe kuneziphumo ezibi, ezinefuthe elibi ekukhuleni komntwana.
Akulunganga ukuba ubhenele kwiimpama ezithandwayo xa ulungisa isimilo esithile somntwana. Umonakalo ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo ubaluleke kakhulu kwaye unokuba neziphumo kwixa elizayo.
Iziphumo zokubetha abantwana
Ukubetha abantwana kukuziphatha okugwenxa kubazali, eza kuba nothotho lweziphumo ezifanele ukuqatshelwa:
- Ukuncamathiselwa phakathi kwabazali nabantwana kubalulekile kwaye kubalulekile kulo naluphina usapho. Ukuba ukhetha ukubetha umntwana ngalo lonke ixesha isimilo sakhe singanqweneleki, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntwana aqale ukumka kubazali bakhe kwaye abone ukuthembana okanye unxibelelwano nabo lonakele kakhulu.
- Kuyinyani yokwenyani ukuba ubundlobongela budala ubundlobongela obuninzi. Ukuba abantwana babethwa ngabazali babo, kuya kuziva kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukubetha abanye abantwana. Idatha ibonisa oku kwaye kukuba abo bantwana bafumene isohlwayo ngokwasemzimbeni kubazali babo, baneebhaloti ezininzi zokuba babe ngabahlaseli.
- Ngokubetha umntwana uyamnyanzela ukuba athobele kwaye amkele imiyalelo yabazali. Nangona kunjalo, abantwana njengoko bekhula kufuneka bazimele kwaye bazimele kwizinto ezininzi abazenzayo. Abancinci kufuneka bathobele imigaqo ebekwe ngabazali kodwa bazi ukuba zithetha ukuthini ngawo onke amaxesha.
- Abazali kufuneka babe yimizekelo ebantwaneni babo xa kuziwa ekukhuleni nasekukhuleni njengabantu abadala. Akunakuba kukuba abantwana abancinci babone ukuba abazali babo abanakho nangaliphi na ixesha ukulawula umsindo okanye bayakhathazeka kwaye bazinikezela kolokuqala kwiinguqu.
- Imeko yeemvakalelo ibaluleke kakhulu xa ufundisa abancinci. Ukuba abazali bakhetha ukubetha abantwana babo kutshintsho lokuqala, abayi kuba nakho ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo nangaliphi na ixesha kwaye baya kuba neengxaki ezinzulu xa kufikwa ekuhlaleni nabanye abantu.
Ngamafutshane, Akukho meko kufuneka isohlwayo somzimba sisetyenziswe xa kulungiswa indlela yokuziphatha komntwana. Imfundo kufuneka isekwe kwiimpawu ezibalulekileyo njengentlonipho okanye uthando. Umntwana ukwamkela ngakumbi ukufunda nokumamela xa esiva ukunamathela kunye nenkxaso yabazali bakhe kunoko wohlwaywa wabethwa rhoqo.
Abazali kufuneka babe nomonde xa befundisa abantwana babo, kuba ayingomsebenzi olula okanye olula. Akunakho ukuvumela ukuba ngexesha lokuqala lotshintsho, abazali bakhetha eyona ndlela ilula kwaye babhenele esidleleni ukuze bafundise abantwana babo ngendlela efanelekileyo.