Indlela yokwenza kunye nokubonakaliswa kweemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo Ubukhulu becala baya kumisela uhlobo lokuncamathela olukhoyo kwisibini. Ukuncamathisela kuxhomekeke ngokuthe ngqo kubuntu anabo umntu kunye nobuntwana bakhe.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo sithetha malunga iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuncamathela ezinokuthi zenzeke kubudlelwane kunye neempawu zomnye wabo.
Yintoni esiyiqondayo ngokuncamathisela
I-Attachment ayikho enye into ngaphandle kwe-affective bond eya kubakho nomnye umntu. Olu qhotyoshelweyo lukhankanywe ngasentla lwenziwe ukususela ekuzalweni komntwana kwaye luhlala ubomi bonke, nokuba ngabahlobo, usapho, abantwana okanye iqabane. Ukuqhotyoshelwa komntu ukususela ebuntwaneni kuya kugqiba ubudlelwane bomntu kwixesha elizayo kunye neqabane lakhe.
Iiklasi zokuncamathisela kwesi sibini
- Uhlobo lokuqala lokuncamathisela aluzithembi kwaye ibonisa ukunqongophala okucacileyo kwiqabane. Konke oku kukhokelela kuloyiko kunye nokungakhuseleki okungazuzi nto kubudlelwane. Kukho ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo okubalulekileyo kunye nokungabikho kwenkululeko eyenza iqhina libe buthathaka ngokuhamba kwexesha. Kukho ukusetyenziswa okuqhubekayo kokuguqulwa kweemvakalelo ukwenzela ukulawula iqabane.
- Uhlobo lwesibini lokunamathisela lukude okanye lubanda. Kolu hlobo lobudlelwane kukho ukunqongophala okucacileyo komsa kwaye umntu ngamnye ufuna indawo yakhe yobuqu. Ukubanda kwinqanaba elichaphazelekayo kunye nemvakalelo lifakwe ngokusisigxina kubudlelwane besibini.
- Uhlobo lwesithathu lokuncamathela olunokuthi lwenzeke kwisibini yi-inshurensi. Olu hlobo lokuncamathela luqinisekisa ukuqhubeka kwexesha elide kwesibini. Iqela ngalinye linendawo yalo yobuqu kwaye akukho lawulo. Kukho ukuthembana ngokupheleleyo kwesi sibini kwaye oku kunempembelelo entle kwiqhina elenziweyo. Unxibelelwano lunamanzi kwaye lugqibelele, into ephambili xa kufikelelwa ekufumaneni izicombululo ezizezona zilungileyo kwiingxabano okanye iingxaki ezinokuvela phakathi kwesibini
- Uhlobo lokugqibela lokunamathisela luyaziwa ngokuba alulungelelaniswa kwaye luyingxube yokungakhuselekanga kunye nokubanda. Izimilo zidla ngokugqabhuka kwaye zingxamile, nto leyo eyonakalisa ngokuthe ngqo ubudlelwane. Iimvakalelo ezintle zithatha i-backseat ukuya kwenzakalisa iimvakalelo ezingalunganga. Ukukhungatheka kukho ngamaxesha onke kubudlelwane, into ethi, njengoko ilindelwe, ayizuzisi isibini ngokwaso.
Ngamafutshane, isimbo sokuncamathela siya kubonisa imeko yezempilo yeso sibini. I-attachment ekhuselekileyo ayifani nenye engakhuselekanga okanye ebandayo. Ulungelelwaniso lweemvakalelo lungundoqo xa iqhina liba namandla kwaye isibini sifikelela kwinqanaba elithile lentlalontle okanye ulonwabo. Khumbula ukuba uncamathiselo lunokuguqulwa kwaye ludale ubudlelwane obunempilo ngokusemandleni.