Ukuwa eluthandweni nomntu kunye nokubuyiselwa kuye yinto entle kwaye yahlukile. Ingxaki ibonakala xa uthando lungaphindezelwa, lubangela iintlungu ezinkulu kulowo ungamkelekanga.
Into eyaziwa ngokuba sisifo sothando inokuba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kumntu ogulayo, njengoko inokonakalisa imeko yeemvakalelo kwaye iphela ihlupheka kwizifo ezithile ezinje ngoxinzelelo.
Yintoni ukugula kothando
Uthando lokugula yimeko yokuqaqanjelwa yintlungu umntu anokufumana kuyo xa engabuyiswanga. Le meko ibangela iintlungu, usizi kunye nokungonwabi okukhulu, kuchaphazela imeko yeemvakalelo zomntu othethiweyo.
Oku kuthanda kubaluleke kakhulu kunokuba kunokuba kubonakala ekuqaleni. Oku kusilela kothando kubangela umntu ochaphazelekayo, inokuphoswa kwimeko yokudakumba ebalulekileyo apho ezahlula emhlabeni kwaye kunqabile ukuba asebenzisane naye nabani na. Kukho uthotho lweemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ezixhaphakileyo ezinje ngokungakhathali, usizi okanye ukungabi nathemba kuyo yonke into.
Iimpawu zokugula kothando
Ukuthanda kwenzeka xa ulindelo lothando umntu analo komnye, ayenziwa, ekhokelela ekuphoxekeni okukhulu. Ngokubhekisele kwiimpawu zale ngxaki yeemvakalelo, kufuneka ubonakalise imvakalelo yokuba lilolo kunye netyala elibangela ukuba umntu ochaphazelekayo asweleke koxinzelelo.
Uxinzelelo lubangela ezinye iintlobo zeemvakalelo eziqhelekileyo zokugula ngengqondo. Ke ngoko, Kuqhelekile ukuba umntu ophethwe luthando angathandi yonke into kwaye ufumane inkuthazo ebomini bakho.
Amanqanaba okuthandwa
Ekuthandeni, umntu ochaphazelekayo unokuhamba kuthotho lwezigaba okanye amanqanaba:
- Isigaba sokuqala sinokubandakanya ukwala ukuphelisa ubudlelwane obuthile. Umntu akafuni ukubona okanye ukwamkela nangaliphi na ixesha ukuba ubudlelwane nomnye umntu abunakwenzeka.
- Inqanaba elilandelayo lelo apho iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo ziqala ukubonakala njengokuziva unetyala, ukudana okanye umsindo.
- Isigaba sokugqibela sesi siquka ukwamkelwa kwale meko. Akululanga kwaphela ukufikelela kweli nqanaba lokugqibela kwaye abantu abaninzi bafuna uncedo lobungcali ukuze bakufezekise.
Ungasoyisa njani ukugula ngothando
Ukwalelwa ngumntu omthandayo kunzima kwaye kuyinkimbinkimbi imeko. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, ukuzahlula kwilizwe liphela akulunganga. Eyona nto ikulungeleyo kukuba ukwazi ukukhupha kwaye ube nakho ukuthetha ukuba le meko yokuqaqanjelwa yentliziyo ikuchaphazele njani.
Ngamaxesha anzima ngolu hlobo kulungile ukuba umntu azingqonge nabahlobo nabantu abasondeleyo kwaye azame ukoyisa ingxaki enjalo. Kwaye akucebisi ukuba uqhubeke ubona okanye ugcine ubudlelwane obunobuhlobo nomntu omthandayo. Into yokuqala kukuqhelanisa imeko entsha kwaye uyazi ukuba ulwalamano alunakwenzeka okanye luphele ngonaphakade.
Ukuba ingxaki iya isiba mandundu kwaye umntu engakuboni ukukhanya ekupheleni kwetonela, kulungile ukuya kwingcali ngubani owaziyo ukuphatha ingxaki kwaye ancede umntu ukuba oyise ukugula kothando.