Nokuba kungasiphi na isizathu, amadoda amaninzi aziva efuna ukuzifihla iimvakalelo zawo. Kukho amadoda ngelishwa akhuliswe njengabantwana ukufihla iimvakalelo zabo, into ethi ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo kwihlabathi lanamhlanje nanjengabantu abadala, inokudala iimeko ezididayo kubo nakwabanye. Uninzi lwabafazi bayayazi into ecingwa yindoda, kodwa bahlala bezama ukuyifihla.
Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba bathanda ukungaqondakali okanye kungenxa yokuba ngaloo ndlela bongeza imvakalelo ebomini babo, kodwa kubonakala ngathi amadoda acinga ngokuba 'ngamehlo' xa enyanisweni, eso simo sengqondo singenzi lukhulu ... nangaphantsi xa unomdla ngokwenene emfazini, kodwa Ngokufuna ukufihla iimvakalelo zabo, banokulahlekelwa lithuba lokuba secaleni kwabo.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba inkwenkwe oyithandayo yenye yamadoda azama ukufihla iimvakalelo zawo, ukongeza ekumenzeni abone ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba aziphathe ngolu hlobo kuba ayizukufeza nayiphi na injongo, kubalulekile ukuba Uyaqonda ukuba unomdla wokwenene kuwe okanye ukuba ngokuchaseneyo, ufumana imiqondiso yokudideka
Thetha ngawe kwabanye
Ukuba abahlobo babo okanye usapho bayazi ngawe, ngumqondiso olungileyo wokuba bafuna abanye bazi ngawe. Amadoda axelela ezi ntlobo zezinto kuphela kubantu abathembele kwaye bawaxabise amazwi abo ngendlela enje ukuba uthetha ngawe kungenxa yokuba ufuna ngokwenene ukukwazi ngokusondeleyo. Ukuba akukho mntu ukwaziyo, oko kubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba akakuxabisi ngokwaneleyo ukuba unokwabelana nabanye ngengcinga yakhe okanye ukuba uchithe ixesha lakho kunye naye.
Chitha ixesha nawe
Akwanelanga ukumthanda nje, ukuba uchitha ixesha nawe kwaye ufuna iindlela zokuba secaleni kwakho amaxesha amaninzi emini okanye evekini, kuyacaca ukuba unomdla kuwe nokuba uzama ukukufihla. Indoda ethandanayo iya kufuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nomntu onomdla kuye. Usenokungakulungeli ukukwazisa ukuba uyakuthanda ngamazwi, kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, amazwi akhe aya kuba ngaphezulu.
Khumbula ukuba amadoda zizidalwa ezibonakalayo kwaye aya emva kwento ayithandayo xa esiva isidingo esomeleleyo ngokwenene, ke nikela ingqalelo kwimfuno yabo yokufuna ukuchitha ixesha nawe ... okanye awunayo le mfuno kwaphela.
Uyayikhathalela indlela oziva ngayo
Ayingabo bonke abantu abaya kukumamela, kwaye kuncinci ukuba abaziva nto ikhethekileyo kuwe. Xa indoda inomfazi osondeleyo entliziyweni yakhe, kunokwenzeka ukuba ayithande kwaye ayikhathalele impilo-ntle yakhe kunye neemvakalelo zakhe. Nika ingqalelo le mizuzu, ngakumbi ukuba khange yenzeke ngaphambili. Amadoda alungileyo aya kufuna ukwazi ngawe, ukuba unjani kwaye uziva njani. Qiniseka ukuba xa echitha eli xesha nawe kwaye ukukhathalele, kungenxa yokuba unomdla kuwe ngaphezu komhlobo.
Ulwimi lwakhe olungenamlomo, ukuba ufuna ukuthetha nawe rhoqo, ukuba wabelana ngezinto ezivela kubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla okanye iimfihlelo ... kuyacaca ukuba nokuba uzama ukuzifihla kangakanani, unemvakalelo ngawe.