Akululanga okanye kulula ukufumana uthando lokwenene kwaye uyonwabele. Abo banethamsanqa lokuyifumana, bayichaze njengento edlula ngaphaya kwemvakalelo. Nangona kunjalo, baninzi abantu abathi kubo bonke ubomi babo bangabinakho ukufumana olu thando lunqwenelekayo.
Isitshixo sokufumana umntu ovusa olo thando kunye nomnqweno, kungenxa yokuzithanda kakuhle kunye nokunikezela ngokupheleleyo kulowo umthandayo. Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kuthetha ngezinto ekufuneka zinikezelwe ukuze uthando luthathwe njengenyaniso.
Zeziphi izinto ekufuneka zibekhona kuthando lwenene
Ukuze uthando lube yinyani kufuneka kubekho ukuzibophelela kokwenyani komnye umntu kwaye ngale ndlela, yenza ibhondi ikhule yomelele ngokuhamba kwexesha. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, uthando lokwenyani kufuneka luqulathe uthotho lwezinto esizibona ngezantsi:
- Njengoko sele sibonisile apha ngasentla, uthando lokwenene lungaphezulu kokuziva. Kukho ukungqinelani okupheleleyo phakathi kwaba bantu babini kumacandelo amaninzi ngaphandle kwento ebonakalayo. Inkangeleko ibalulekile kodwa kukho ezinye izinto ezixhaphakileyo kuthando lwenene. Kukho unxibelelwano olukhulu kakhulu kwinqanaba leemvakalelo, ngakumbi kwiindawo ezinje ngovelwano okanye inkuthazo.
- Uthando lokwenene luthetha ukuba imeko yeemvakalelo okanye yengqondo yabo bobabini abantu isempilweni ukongeza ukuhlala ixesha elide. Kukho umdla ongapheliyo kwinto yokuba umntu omthandayo uphilile kwaye wonwabile. Bobabini abantu kufuneka babe ngabahambisanayo kwaye babandakanyeke ngokupheleleyo kulwalamano.
- Enye yezona zinto ziimpawu zothando lwenene kukungaphelelwa lixesha. Esi sibini sihlala okwangoku ngaphandle kokuthathela ingqalelo ixesha elidlulileyo okanye elizayo. Ukuphila ngokuzeleyo yonke imizuzu yomhla yeyona nto ibalaseleyo kuthando lwenene. Akufuneki uyeke nangaliphi na ixesha kubomi obudlulileyo nokuba ningenzi izicwangciso ngekamva, kuba eyona nto ibalulekileyo yeyangoku nomntu omthandayo.
- Into yokugqibela ekhoyo kuthando lwenene yintsebenziswano okanye into efanayo, ukuhlangana kunye kwinjongo enye okanye ukuphela. Ukukwazi ukuzibophelela omnye komnye kubalulekile ekwenzeni iiprojekthi ngokudibeneyo. Ukuba isibini siyakwazi ukusebenzisana siya kukhula njengabantu kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi kwaye yomelela xa kufikwa kubudlelwane.
Ngamafutshane, kunokuthiwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uthando lokwenene lukhona. Akululanga ukufumana umntu oza kubelana naye ubomi bakho bonke kwaye uthandana naye ngokwenene. Ukuba ungalufumana olo thando, akufuneki uluyeke lubaleke kwaye ulunakekele mihla le ukuze lomelele. Ukuzinikela kufuneka kuphelele kwaye unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo kufuneka luqhubeke kule minyaka idlulileyo.