Ngaba kukho into ebuhlungu ngakumbi emntwini kunokuba uthandane nomnye umntu ongahambelani naye? Kungenzeka ukuba nangona ayilo thando lokuphindisela, umntu othandweni ungena kwilungu lentlungu nosizi ekukho nzima ukuphuma kulo.
Yeka ukuthanda umntu kunzima kakhulu, nangona kucetyiswa kakhulu xa kuthe uthando alubuyiswa. Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kukuxelela indlela efanelekileyo yokushiya uthando olungafunekiyo.
Imiqondiso yokuba uthando aluphindisi
Into yokuqala umntu omthandayo ekufuneka eyenzile, Kukuqonda ukuba kukho uthotho lweempawu ezibonisa ukuba omnye umntu akaziva ngokufanayo:
- Umntu omthandayo ukuxelela ukuba uyakuthanda kakhulu njengomhlobo kodwa akaluva uthando kuwe. Libinzana elilukhuni ngokwenene elifunekayo ukuze ubone izinto ngokucacileyo.
- Kubudlelwane, aba bantu babini kufuneka bazinikele kuyo ukuze isibini singagungqi. Ukuba ngumntu omnye kuphela onika yonke into kwaye omnye engenzi nto, Kungumqondiso wokuba uthando alukho.
- Xa uqala ubudlelwane obuthile, kufuneka ubonise ukuzibophelela ukuze yonke into ihambe kakuhle. Andifuni ukuzibophelela kubudlelwane, Kungumqondiso ongathandabuzekiyo ukuba uthando alubuyiswa kwaye elinye lamaqela liyaliphika.
Ungayeka kanjani ukuthanda umntu ongangqinelaniyo nawe
Nje ukuba uqinisekise ukuba iqabane lakho alihambelani nawe, akunamsebenzi ukuqhubeka umthanda lo mntu kuba yinkqubo ebuhlungu ngokwenene, enokukucekisa kancinci ngokwasemzimbeni nasengqondweni. Qaphela la macebiso alandelayo anokukunceda ushiye ubudlelwane:
- Nangona kunokuba buhlungu ngokwenene, kuyacetyiswa ukuba uzihlukanise neqabane lakho. Ngale ndlela, iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ngothandekayo ziyancipha.
- Kufuneka uzithembe kwaye uzikhusele, kuba ngale ndlela inkqubo yokwahlukana iya kuba lula kwaye inyamezeleke.
- Ukuvalelisa ngonaphakade ayizukuba ngumsebenzi olula kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uqale ngokucinga ngawe kwaye wonwabe ngento oyithandayo. Zive ukhululekile ukudibana nabahlobo ngesiselo okanye ukuthenga.
- Ngoku ubudlelwane buphelile, kubalulekile ukuseta ujongo kwiinjongo okanye kwiinjongo. ukuze uzive uzalisekisiwe njengomntu.
- Kukho abantu abangakwaziyo kuthi ndlela ntle kubudlelwane nangona beziva iintlungu xa bengaphindiselwa.. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kungcono ukuba ucele uncedo kwiingcali. Enkosi ngayo, unokubakha kwakhona ubomi bakho ngokukhawuleza kwaye ulibale loo mntu ungahambelani nawe.
Ngamafutshane, kunzima kwaye kubuhlungu ukuthanda umntu kwaye ungaphindezelwa. Ngaphandle koku, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ulibale malunga nomntu othethiweyo kwaye ke thintela ukungena kwi-negative spiral eyenzakalisa umzimba nengqondo yalo mntu kuthethwa ngaye.