Lonke ulwalamano olutsha lithuba lokuqalisa kwakhona, kodwa ukuba nomona nge-ex yakho yindlela yomlilo eqinisekileyo yokumtshabalalisa ngaphambi kokuba aqale. Sonke siye saba nomona ngaxa lithile kubomi bethu be-ex. Oku kwenzeka kuba umona kunokuba nzima ukuphelisa kwaye ukushiywa kungalawulwa kunokukonakalisa.
Kuyaphambana indlela onokuqonda ngayo ukuba unomona nge-ex kwaye ukhe uzive ungenaluncedo kuba ufuna ukwenza into ngayo kodwa ungabinakho. Ikhwele likushiya ungaziva ungonwabanga ukuba unganobunzima bokufumana.
Uvela phi umona kwi ex yakho?
Isikhwele sakho sangaphambili sivela kwindawo engenangqondo apho ufuna ukuba nguwe wedwa oye wabakho kubomi beqabane lakho kwezothando. Ngelixa kunokuba kuhle ukukholelwa ukuba nguwe wedwa othandiweyo, oku akunakwenzeka kwaye kuyinyani.
Sonke singena kubudlelwane obutsha sisazi ukuba bekukho "abanye" phambi kwethu. Ukucinga umva amaxesha ngamaxesha ayisiyongxaki, kodwa xa ufumanisa ukuba awukwazi ukuya phambili ngokuqinisekileyo ngenxa yokuba unomona nge-ex yakho, ubeka ulwalamano lwakho ukuba lusilele kwixa elizayo.
Eminye imiqondiso yokuba unomona nge-ex yakho
Emva koko siza kuphawula ezinye zeempawu onokuthi uzivavanye ukuba uziva unomona na nge-ex yakho okanye zizinto nje ezisentloko yakho kodwa awuziva uyinyani. Ngaba unomona ngokwenene nge-ex yakho? Jonga le miqondiso ilandelayo:
- Uchitha ixesha elininzi ngokuzibuza ngaye kwaye kuthetha ntoni kumfana wakho ukuba kubudlelwane naye.
- Uhlala uthelekisa ulwalamano lwakho lwangoku kunye nolwalamano lwakho lwangaphambili.
- Uza nento enxulumene nobudlelwane babo bangaphambili / obudlulileyo ngelixa unencoko malunga nolwalamano lwakho lwangoku okanye ukungavumelani. Ukuba iza ngokwendalo kwincoko, kulungile, kodwa ukuba uyizisa njengomlinganiso wento ethile, ubudlelwane bakho abuyi kuhlala ixesha elide.
- Uhlala ucinga ngemeko apho iqabane lakho linxibelelana ngokufihlakeleyo ne-ex yabo kwaye baceba iintlanganiso ezifihlakeleyo emva komqolo wakho.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ulahle umona ngaphambi kokuba ulwalamano lwakho lonyuke? Ngaba ungazilawula ezi mvakalelo ude uzenze ukuba zihambe? Ukuba unganako. Nangona kunjalo, ayizukuba lula kwaye iya kufuna ukuzibophelela okuninzi kwinxalenye yakho kunye nexesha ngokubanzi.
Ungayeka njani ukuba nomona ngeqabane lakho langaphambili?
Khumbula ukuba ukunye nawe. Loo mntu ukhethe ukuba kubudlelwane nawe. Ukuba ufuna ukuhlala nalo mntu, uya kuba naye. Akubalulekanga ukuba ngubani ophelise ubudlelwane. Kukwixesha elidlulileyo kwaye kuphelile. Ukuba akakuniki sizathu sokukhathazeka malunga noku, kuya kufuneka uyeke iimvakalelo zekhwele.
Ngaba ulwalamano lwakho lutsha?
Ngamanye amaxesha umona ubangelwa yimbali abanayo omnye nomnye, engekadalwa kunye nawe. Ubudlelwane obutsha buthatha ixesha ukukhula nokukhula. Gxila koko kwaye wakhe eyakho imbali kunye neenkumbulo kunye.
Ulwalamano lwakho luyomelela ukuba ubeka umona ecaleni ... Kodwa ukuba umona ulawula yonke into, ubudlelwane bakho buya kuba nomhla wokuphela.