Kukho abazali abaziva bengalunganga kwaye bakholelwa ekubeni ukuba negunya kubantwana babo kuthetha ukuba kufuneka balile okanye baboyike ngembeko eyityhefu. Akukho nto iqhubekayo kwinyani. Ukuba negunya elifanelekileyo kubantwana bakho kuthetha ukuba bakuhloniphe ngaphandle koloyiko kwaye akukho sidingo sokukhala xa uzama ukubaqeqesha.
Unokuziva ngathi abantwana bakho banzima xa ubayala. Basenokunyanzelisa izinto amaxesha amaninzi kuba nje befuna ukuba kwenziwe ukuthanda kwakho, kwaye kusenokuhenda ukuba unikezele ngenxa nje yokuba unganyanzelekanga ukuba ulwe nomsindo. Kodwa abantwana abancinci bafuna imida kunye nemithetho kuba kungale ndlela kuphela apho baya kufunda ukuba nokuziphatha kakuhle, besazi okulindeleke kubo ngawo onke amaxesha. Kodwa unegunya elingakanani ngaphandle kokukhala iinyembezi zomsindo? Ungayenza njani ngokuchanekileyo?
Musa ukunyanzelisa ukuthanda kwakho ngendlela yokohlwaya
Okokuqala, kuya kufuneka uyiphephe imfazwe yemiyolelo ngaphambi kokuba iqale, ke kubalulekile ukuba unike abantwana bakho ukwahluka umzuzu ngaphambi kokwenza naluphi na utshintsho. Oku kuya kukunceda uphephe umzabalazo wamandla. Umzekelo, ukuba ixesha lomdlalo liphelile, kuya kufuneka umazise imizuzu emi-5 kwangaphambili ukuze wazi ukuba ixesha lomdlalo liyaphela.
Ukuba umzekelo, lixesha lokulala kwaye uyadlala, ungatsho into efana nale: 'Unokwakha ezinye iibhloko ezimbini emva koko sinxibe iipyjama zethu, siye kwisidlo, emva koko sifunde ibali lokulala.' Xa umntwana wakho egqibile ukwakha ezinye iibhloko ezimbini, mxelele ukuba ixesha lokudlala liphelile kwaye umkhokele kwinto amakayenze ngoku kwiindlela zangokuhlwa.
Mnike ezinye iindlela
Ukuze abantwana bazive belawula kufuneka babe nezinye iindlela, kufuneka babeneendlela ezininzi abanokukhetha kuzo. Ngale ndlela baya kuziva ngathi banolawulo oluthile kwimeko abajamelana nayo ngeloxesha. Umzekelo, ukuba sowuza kuya epakini, kwaye umntwana wakho uyala xa umcela ukuba alungele ukuphuma, ungabuza: 'Ngaba uyafuna ukunxiba izihlangu okanye ibhatyi kuqala?' (ukugcina ukhetho ubuncinci ezimbini kuya kunciphisa ithuba lokudideka).
Inokuba luncedo ukuba wenza ukulandelelana ngokwasemzimbeni xa unxiba idyasi kunye nezihlangu nomntwana wakho. Ngokwenza okufanayo, uya kuba wenza imodeli yokuziphatha ofuna ukuyibona kumncinci wakho.
Ezinye iindlela ziya kuhlala zimnceda ukuba azive ukuba uphethe kwaye ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into, ukuba uyayihlonipha into ayenzileyo, kwaye uyakwazi ukumqonda kwaye umhloniphe.
Intlonipho ngaphezu kwako konke
Ukufumana igunya ebantwaneni bakho, eyona nto ibalulekileyo yintlonelo. Ukufezekisa oku, kufuneka ucinge ngenhlonipho ofuna babe nayo kuwe, kuba kufuneka ubenabo kuqala.
Intlonipho ayithethi ukukhwaza kwaye ukoyike, oko kuthetha ukuba usecaleni kwabo ukubakhokela, ukubanceda, kwaye ubamamele ngokuqonda kunye novelwano. Abantwana bakho baya kuziva bekhuselekile ecaleni kwakho kwaye baya kwazi ukuba banokuthembela kuwe nanini na beyifuna. Sebenzisani iimvakalelo zenu kunye kwaye yonke into iya kuhamba ngcono kakhulu.